I feel like there’s a point to be made about the historical use of the term transracial, which described the experiences of people who were adopted into families of a different race than oneself as a child. In these cases, even though there may be superficial differences present, the culture the person was raised into is that of the adoptive family, and as a result it’s what they tend to identify with based on lived experience.

I think there’s a difference between idolizing a different race or its culture thereof, and having formative experiences as a member of that community, even if there were indicators that marked you as an “other” both to those within and without. I don’t know if it’s really worthwhile to tell people how they can and can’t feel about their identity in this way, but there are definitely nuances that make racial identity experiences distinct from gender identity experiences.