I primarily ask this, because for a large part of my life, I have found it hard to build meaningful friendships with neurotypicals. I don’t know any autistic people in real life, but wonder if it would be easier for me to build friendships with them?

Or maybe this has more to do with general struggles of being autistic, rather than how alike I am to others. However, I always find neurotypicals don’t really go deep in conversation, but they enjoy small talk. Yet, I’m the complete opposite.

What has been your experience?

  • adam_y@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I’m also enjoying this conversation because it is helping me think through ways of connecting and communicating.

    You seem to work on self improvent in lots of different ways, and that is really commendable. Especially trying to understand yourself and the world through philosophy and psychology.

    Anime! I’m afraid I only know a little… when I was younger I watched Fist of The North Star, and now I sit with my niece as she watches My Hero Academia. I’m very much a fan of studio Ghibli too. Are there any that you would recommend to someone like me? Casual and easier to get into?

    I’ve always wanted to see japan, their culture is complex and fascinating. Their food is delicious.

    I do read quite a lot of Japanese literature though. Have you ever encountered Kobo Abe? He’s a writer, musician and artist. He Wrote a book called ‘The Box Man’. It’s a bout a man who one day moves into a large cardboard box and refuses to leave it. It is a little surreal, and funny and bleak at the same time. I’m not sure a Western writer could have pulled off such a work. It’s also fairly short and there are good translations out there.

    It really resonated with me when I found it hard to relate to the world, particularly socially.

    As for what I’m into, I really, really geek out over modern art. I can’t explain it, but I just find so much joy in looking at paintings and sculptures. I can spend hours alone with them and not really feel alone, or I can see things that I’ve never thought of. Some of it repulses me, but I’ve learnt to find enjoyment in that too. It’s as deep as I want it to be. Sometimes it can be surface, “that’s pretty” or sometimes it can be conceptual and philosophical.

    For what it’s worth, you come across as a a very clear and friendly communicator. I really appreciate the time you have taken to reply to me too. Thank you.