• S_204@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I cook, I clean, I bath the kids and do daycare runs, I’m the one that updates the family calendar so we’re all in the right spot…when do I get some help dethatching the lawn? Or renovating the bathroom to match some Pinterest post?

    Fair is fair after all. Just doesn’t seem all that fair.

    • cabbagee@sopuli.xyz
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      1 year ago

      So communicate with your spouse. Absolutely no one’s saying you need to do everything yourself. Ideally it’s 50/50, even if the 50’s don’t look the same.

      Also, not saying this is your case, but sometimes when I feel like I’m the person doing everything I’ll ask my spouse to remind me of their 50. It’s easy for me to see what I do and when I’m low it feels harder to see what they do. So I tell them I’m having a myopic moment and ask them to point out some of their 50 to knock me out of it.