• rabber@lemmy.ca
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    3 days ago

    being attracted to someone and then finding out they were once biologically male

    Also valid I think. I’m looking for a woman who wants to have kids with me so it would really suck for both parties and I would prefer to avoid that awkward situation altogether. That could end up being straight up traumatic for either person

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      3 days ago

      A lot of people can’t have or don’t want to have children for various reasons or medical issues.

      Seems like this problem can just be solved by being upfront that you want to have children? No point in singling out any specific reason when the real issue is that you need someone to have children with. Most people would appreciate you expressing your needs upfront.

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        3 days ago

        I mean that sounds good on paper but saying you want to have children in the initial stage of a relationship is probably a red flag lol

        • Nat (she/they)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          2 days ago

          So is feeling violated at someone not telling you beforehand they’re trans. I’d feel a lot worse with you doing that than asking if I’m fertile.