• uniquethrowagay@feddit.org
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    7 hours ago

    My only pet peeve with all this is “misgendering” which I honestly despise. If one is a grown up 180cm male I’m never gonna call him a “her” just because of a wig and makeup.

    Interesting.

    What if they were 165cm, had the face and body and voice of a woman and you had no idea they were trans? Would you call them He if you found out?

    Would you call a big burly bearded guy She after you found out they are a trans man?

    If yes, why so? If no, why so?

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      6 hours ago

      Would you call them He if you found out?

      Yes I would, in both cases. But I guess it would depend, if we were friends I might call them the way they want. But that is a favor as a friend, not something that I would accept be demanded from me

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        So what you’re saying is that if you don’t know the particular person, you will actively go out of way to be an asshole to them, but if they’re someone you care about, then you’d pretend to respect trans people enough not to intentionally fuck with them.

        Lovely.

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          5 hours ago

          No, I already said I’d simply avoid the person

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            4 hours ago

            No, you didn’t lmao

            Would you call them He if you found out?

            Yes I would

            if we were friends I might call them the way they want

            You specifically said you would actively misgender them, unless they’re your friend, in which case you “might” not actively go out of your way to do so. That’s a dick move, simple as.

            And no, you can’t pretend that answer isn’t real by adding “I would never interact with or see a trans person” because that’s not how life works.

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        6 hours ago

        That’s unfortunate, why not be friendly to a stranger?

        Why does someones chromosomal sex matter to you if you don’t want to have children with them?

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          6 hours ago

          Because I’m selective with my friends and I don’t want any drama, and from my experience and what I keep seeing thsese king of people are all about atention.

          Really don’t want that in my life