I’ve heard it explained that “hey” used to be more of an urgent way to get someone’s attention, rather than a casual “hello” like it is now, so it sounded rude to some older folks.

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      Part of the conversation talking about how older people get upset at how a server answers them? Yes.

      If you say you don’t care, then there’s no reason for you to comment about that aspect of the conversation.

      I’m trying to explain to the socially inept why using certain terminology in a hospitality setting can be frowned upon. Unsurprisingly, they can’t grasp this very simple concept.

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        Maybe the older people just shouldn’t get upset? Why do we need to pander to them? Cant they just allow us to respond to thank you the way we want to?

        Goes both ways. And yes I have reason, this is a child Conversation of one of my comments.

        Society should stop pandering to them, eventually there would be no places they could go without accepting they’ve lost. Plenty of places do fine already being hospital under other means.

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          They are going to get upset because that is how they were raised and there’s nothing wrong with that. You can choose to say no problem and they can choose to get upset by it, that’s how life works.

          Also, in the hospitality industry, pandering is part of the job.

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            There’s everything wrong with being entitled lmfao.

            So why is it acceptable for them to be upset, but it’s not acceptable for them to say no problem? That’s not how life works.

            Pandering is only part of the job because people were incorrectly taught that. Pandering also comes in many forms. Why do you think the Karen cafe does so well?

            Eventually they will learn they have to accept society won’t pander specially to them, the rest of the population our numbers them and eventually hospitablility will switch to the more profitable market. Which will be pissing boomers off even more.

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              The server can say “no problem “ and the older people can get upset about it, plain and simple. I already explained why using that term in a hospitality setting can be frowned upon. Everything else is just going around in circles trying to rationalize one side or the other of the argument. Young people see no difference, fine, older people do.

              I swear, for a generation that preaches tolerance, they are certainly not very tolerant of older people and their traditions.

              Someone else replied to me, saying they should all just die since they can’t cope with the new world, or something like that. That doesn’t sound very tolerant to me.

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                If a server says no problem and someone takes offense, they complain to management, unless management has their back they will be reprimanded since “the customer is always right” which is another fallacy…

                Maybe they are sick of being tolerant and having none of it reciprocated. What tradition are yo talking about? Entitlement?

                That’s a little far, but at some point they need to realize people aren’t going to pander to them forever. And again, maybe they are sick of being tolerant and following traditions for no other reason than amusing elders. Two way street.

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                  The customer is always right, is a fallacy? Yeah, now I know you’ve never worked in hospitality. Heaven forbid you expect your server to be tolerant, and the customer is under no obligation to reciprocate.

                  Also, entitlement isn’t exactly how I would describe that generation but it certainly rings true for the latest offspring. Colloquially known as the immediate gratification generation. 🤣