• PsychoNewt@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I relate to this so well. Touched bases with someone from high school just yesterday. Havent spoken to him in 15 years. We were talking about a good friend of both of ours who hung himself. I kept dropping comments about him “hanging around” and how he “hung out” here or there, he “knew the ropes”… but the guy never acknowledged that I was trying to make light of a heavy situation… Or maybe he knew and wasn’t on the same page. 😂

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      1 year ago

      Probably because you crossed the line from “dark” to “cruel”.

      Without speaking to him in years, and especially about that mutual friend, you have no idea how he’s viewed that loss, or has other, more recent losses that are similar.

      And you kept pushing it when he didn’t laugh, either deliberately or inadvertently using the social convention of not causing a scene/confronting someone over a joke to your advantage.

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        1 year ago

        mfs be like “i like dark humor aha remember our good pal we used to hangout with and love that unexpectedly hung himself aha i bet hes still hanging around… why arent you laughing… hanging in there? guys?”