• Velma@lemmy.today
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    It’s incredibly anti-feminist and misogynistic. It really feels like early Reddit days and 4chan here more often than not.

    We’ve got men coming in this very thread crying misandry because of a somewhat critical tone towards men who aren’t feminists.

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        5 days ago

        Thank you! I’ll definitely add a few of these communities to my block list. I haven’t stumbled on too many out and proud conservatives in the wild here, but some of these leftist men are still carrying a lot of sexist baggage. This will still help a bit!

        Too bad huge boobs is spammy lol

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          To be fair I’m a lesbian so I def don’t mind the boobs lol, but yeah it’s a bit too frequent for my feed, haha.

          What also helps is being on an instance that is explicitly affirming and welcoming to gals and queers. I often tongue-in-cheekishly use queer and furry presence as a canary. They tend to be super chill and whenever they’re in some space, it’s often a sign for me that it’s welcoming.


          The instance is important, because some defederate with a lot of the bad stuff by default. So that helps.

          Another thing is PieFed, they have some anti-authoritarian features baked in, which is handy. Though I’m not a fan of the “often low score comments = comment not visible” element, that reminds me too much of Reddit.

          Whether one chooses Lemmy, PieFed, or Kbin, all are valid in the long end - they’re all part of the fediverse, that’s the important one. It boils down to preferences.

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            It’s hard to parse through the difference in instances when first joining lemmy tbh. I ended up creating my first account on world and it was really off-putting. Lemmy.today is a little closer to what I’m comfortable with and it’s being hosted in a state that I consider a good neighbor, so I’ve stuck around so far.

            Definitely have considered making an account on blahaj.zone

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            Similar sentiment here as a bi woman hahah

            That’ll just be a community that’s visited on its own ;)