Dating is odd to me. I do not really know what my motivations are. If I actually find someone. What then? What will we do? How different will our relationship be from a regular friendship (besides you know what). And should it be?

Should you be wanting to do other things with your SO then a very good friend?

What I’m getting at is, have you ever thought to someone: “They don’t really want a relationship they just want a one particular friend with benefits.”

I don’t know if I’m rambling over here. But I’m really having difficulty digesting this one.

Edit: The reason I ask is because I’m thinking to start dating again but I don’t know my end goal.

  • SendMePhotos@lemmy.world
    5·
    10 months ago

    First goal is finding friends. This sounds like a joke but I’m serious don’t force a relationship. Meet people, get friends. If you align, you align. If not, you’ve made a friend. If not, you’ve learned what you don’t like or learned what others don’t like.

    Make friends. Make a best friend. Then if a relationship blooms, at least it wasn’t forced. You met and found out what you liked before hand.

    • itscozydownhere@lemmy.world
      2·
      10 months ago

      Yeah. But it happened me a couple of times that I fell in love at first sight before even getting to know the person. Then I loved the person too. Maybe it won’t last. But sometimes it’s just pure chemistry in our brain. Never force a relationship of course. And love can blossom with time. But if you stay with a person and it just feels like a close friend, you are probably not in love. And should move on.