Dr Hilary Caldwell’s new book Slutdom looks at how women navigate sex and shame, and at all ages. She shares what she’s learned as both a sex worker and as an academic.
Dr Hilary Caldwell’s new book Slutdom looks at how women navigate sex and shame, and at all ages. She shares what she’s learned as both a sex worker and as an academic.
I appreciate that! And moderating topics like these is frankly nearly impossible as it’s a clash of science and “moral”.
My gist is simple: NSFW is literally: “would you mind a coworker seeing you looking at this?”. After all marking something as NSFW is a form of self censorship: “I recommend you not looking at this at work!”.
From this I deduce two things: a) text should have a higher barrier for NSFW than images. Other people need to actively read what you’re looking at and it’s way harder to claim that text is not workplace appropriate compared to a picture of primary sedual organs. b) What’s actually depicted and said? The Wikipedia page about human reproduction falls at least at my workplace not under NSFW although a penis is clearly depicted.
Now to the OP: it’s an article discussion the struggle of sex workers (well promotion of a book about it but same same). The issue here is that marking articles like these as NSFW perpetuates the core issue of the content discussed: that this is a woman problem that should be talked about in private.
I guess that’s where the majority of downvotes come from as well: “this should not be viewed in the workplace” is a catastrophic signal in this context for the message.
Now to your point of respectdirectly: OP doesn’t disrespect the people who filter out NSFW content because this article should be visible and even discussed in professional contexts if we as human society want to progress. It’s source is a newspaper, it’s content socially relevant and aimed at (provocatively!) educating and it’s topic is sadly very relevant.
All of this is my personal opinion of course but I wanted to leave you with more than just a two word comment!
yeaaa I can totally see where my request would be problematic to say the least
Yup and Thank you!🤗
based on your and other commentors I feel like I have a better grasp on future moderation decisions
for today, I def fucked up so this is a learning momement for me
again thank you for commenting!🤗🌻
Oh that’s not a fuckup in my book!
You’re already doing what a good moderator separates you one from an average one: engage, explain and adapt!
ehhh I dunno
feels like I just made a fool out of myself in public😬
much appreciated🤗
Nah, you’re fine. You show qualities that a lot of moderators are lacking and are rightfully criticised for. You engage in discussion, are open to get your mind changed but don’t blindly follow anyone’s suggestion without wrapping your own mind around it.
I would gladly follow your lead if I would still be in the business of moderating.
It’s a learning process that will never stop, and everyone does mistakes. In moderation quite often because you have to make a lot of decisions in a short time.
What seperates a good mod is that they would acknowledge those mistakes and try to make it better next time.
I’m from Europe and I had to adjust my understanding what NSFW is to the US market. I would set the bar way lower myself in the beginning.
You’re owning a mistake in public, and explaining that and why you understand you were wrong. That’s not making a fool of yourself, that’s publicly growing as a person.