Thank you!
Thank you!
Yep, I completely agree. Itās not so much an insult because you think less of the people youāre being mistaken for. Itās an insult that someone would be so ignorant? Racist? That to them color was the only distinguishing characteristic. I found it offensive when they would call the Guatemalans Mexican or literally any brown person. Iām Mexican btw. When I pointed it out it was always dismissed too.
I think I know how your dad feels. Growing up in West Coast US I didnāt understand why central Americans had such animosity towards being compared or mistaken as Mexican. Then I moved to the south. To my co workers every brown person was Mexican. āhey go ask your little amigo xy or zā was common. āwhat little amigo?ā " The Mexican whoās got the keys to the gate" āI donāt know that guy. Also, heās Guatemalan. See that flag hanging from his car? Itās a Guatemalan flagā I didnāt piss me off, but it made me feel a way I havenāt felt before and itās not positive. I now get triggered when people just assume Iām Mexican. It says a lot about them and itās not good.
asking about ancestry is a good way. Iāve been asked during the first conversation and it hasnāt bothered me. It helped that it was a deep conversation and the topic was somewhat relevant. It makes all the difference if someone is trying to get to know you. I understand I look ethnically ambiguous and if I were trying to get to know me Iād be curious too.
I lived in Tennessee for a few years. Iāve never been greeted so many times with ādo you speak English?ā Sometimes Iād just be like ānah!ā And walk away.
Itās different for everyone. For me, I donāt like it when strangers ask so I donāt ask when Iām the one who is curious. If itās friends or someone getting to know me, it doesnāt matter how itās asked. I do not mind. If Iām handing you a beer and say " thatāll be x dollars." And you respond by asking where Iām from, it bothers me. Itās the difference between getting to know someone and trying to fit them in a box. I get that sometimes people are curious but not every curiosity has to be satisfied. When I tell them that Iām from US itās common to be followed by āfine! Where are your parents from?ā Thatās just weird. Iād never approach a stranger and ask about their parents.
Congratulations! When I moved a few weeks ago I had to sell my old crappy table saw. My new one is used but very much an upgrade. After moving it (almost 300 lbs), I started thinking if I ever move again it stays with the house. Deep down I know Iām not smart enough to remember the misery and thatās why Iām doomed to repeat it.
The black Panthers tried that. Not saying it shouldnāt be done again but letās learn from what happened to them.
The civil rights museum in Memphis,TN is amazing. What made it impactful to me is very much that. Seeing the buses, diners, the hotel, all modern things made me realize these things basically just happened. Black Americans have had a long arduous road to just exist in the country they were forced to come to. And theyāre always being gaslit, told it happened long ago, didnāt happen, it wasnāt that bad etc.
Switching costs money. From what he said money might be tight. I buy and sell my own vehicles. It is a job. Most prefer to give up a few grand to not have to do it (you never get paid full market value on a trade in). Even if someone decided to do it themselves they run the risk of losing big time if theyāre inexperienced. Even though Iāve been doing it for years even I lose on some of these. When I lose, itās usually close to the cost of the vehicle. I can afford that and in the end I average out really well.But the majority of people canāt do that. I get all the hate new big trucks get and I agree. As someone who works in construction I wish station wagons would make a come back. But itās really easy to say ājust do x y or zā itās not so easy to do.
I donāt know if she said it or not but itās about Jada Pinkett Smith saying Tupac was her soulmate. It wouldnāt surprise me, they seemed to have a lot of chemistry.
I like trying to figure it out. Itās one of my favorite things about Lemmy that I can find non US focused communities.