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I was just trying to explain why you’re not finding the material you’re looking for, I am absolutely learning in a vacuum too.
My advice was not “have you tried not?”, it was a recommendation to do what other girlies have done, use their knowledge and experience, do what is already working. That’s exactly why we have spaces like this, and the matrix chatrooms, and other trans spaces.
Cis girls generally don’t do it the way you are trying to, and you will continue to have lesser results while you do it this way. Cis girls did not do this alone, you’re not alone, you don’t need to be alone.
But if you want to ignore me and be combative instead, then that’s up to you.
Yesterday was the first time in my life I came close to self-harm. I bought some bralettes and gaffs to, I don’t even know, try to look more feminine I guess? But I tried them on and I looked, for lack of a better description, breathtakingly revolting. So bad I think I must have disassociated for about fifteen minutes, no thoughts no emotions, just pulling them off me like live snakes. Then I had a breakdown.
I had to fight the urge all day yesterday and today to delete this account, and my matrix account, and discord, and any other account I could remember, fight the urge to isolate myself from everyone and everything so I would never have to be perceived by anyone ever again.