A marriage is a mutual responsibility of the people in it and no one else. Only those two people are even capable of upholding the promises they made to each other. If one or both of them failed to do so that is on them. And again, if they failed to help you understand that it is not your fault, that means that in addition to not being able to keep their own damn promises, they also failed to raise you properly.

Probably not, it depends on what you did. I can (almost) guarantee it was one of two situations though:

1. it wasn’t actually that bad.

2. If it was bad enough that you did manage to actually grievously harm or even kill someone, you were almost definitely put in a situation / given access to something no sane adult should or would have ever allowed a 6 year old child to have access to (such as a gun, or being in a position to knock someone off a cliff). It is the responsibility of adults to make sure that 6 year old children are unable to harm other people while they are still learning that their actions have consequences.

As for your current everyday life, I need you to understand that an inferiority / guilt complex is in itself a burden on everyone around you. I once dated a guy with a similar guilt complex and he was impossible to deal with because I kept having to constantly shore up his self esteem for him.

If you really want to do something that benefits other people, start by working on yourself and your self esteem. You may be able to try self-help books, videos, personal mantras, etc, but if you’re not making any headway with those you likely need professional therapy. You are no good to anyone (and even a bit of a drag), if you continue on with this mindset.

Oh, and it’s also the responsibility of adults to raise children who don’t think or act like this. If the people who raised you have even subtly hinted to you that this is your fault in some way, they’re only doing it to avoid having to take responsibility for failing to prevent a six-year old child from causing irreparable harm to something. That means they failed twice, and they did both as adults.

You’re still stuck fixing it though, not because you deserve it but just by way of it not being possible for anyone else to.

Edit: I’m in a bit of a mood about my own parents right now, so if anybody else wants me to roast their parents lmk it’ll probably be very cathartic.

memory care for my generation is gonna be a breeze. give me chicken nuggets and fries and tell me work called me off and they just updated tamriel rebuilt again.

we had some trouble one morning when I was too tired to drive trying to get the dog to the vet. we kept ordering pet Ubers and the drivers kept showing up and canceling when they saw we had the dog. they kept saying they just saw the better rate and didn’t realize it was because we had a dog with us. except it took like 10 minutes each time we had to try and get a new driver and we were trying to make it to the appointment on time at risk of them canceling the appointment and charging us a fee. is Uber going to reimburse me for the missed appointment fee? it didn’t come to that in the end but it was very stressful.

I get a lot of compliments on my use of the English language and I absolutely cannot stand prescriptivists (among other pedants).

Family bathrooms are also great. Once flew with my intellectually disabled sister who fucking fingerpainted a rest stop stall on a previous trip when my mother broke her arm chasing her to the bathroom and she was left to her own devices. This time I brought gloves and wet wipes and there was a little suite kinda thing. I didn’t need the child size toilet or the breastfeeding couch but the nice big accessible area around the adult toilet was good to have. She wasn’t constipated that time so I didn’t have to stop her from digging it out manually again but man; if I’d had to I totally could’ve! 10/10 would use a family bathroom again.

I just remember it because when I very first started in my career they told me it would be over if I ever restrained a person prone. If you’re in a situation and they fall prone, priority #1 is getting them supine or side lying with as little injury as possible to all parties.

For a long time I thought cops were just uneducated but alas no. I compared notes a few times when officers would come to serve papers from the magistrate and it turns out they’re only supposed to have the person prone long enough to get cuffs on then they’re supposed to transfer to side lying as well (supine would be a no-go with hands cuffed in the back).

Somehow it’s even worse when you actually and specifically know exactly how it’s supposed to be done correctly both in terms of technique and which situations actually necessitate it. I did get certified to teach at the end of last year. How much good I actually do remains to be seen.

Depends on how far out you go.

possible? the only question is if we can prove it.

They probably have a chauffer drive them out of the city to a smaller airport while their personal assistant makes sure they get everything else done on the car on the way.

Yeah I was gonna say they’re actually up there with cigarettes apparently, including being addictive, somehow.

I am the night tree.

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YES I SWORE UP AND DOWN IT HAD TO BE THAT

That’s pretty fucking funny actually.

Same but would be maybe better to not have it go all the way up

I used this advanced search tool (particularly the community impressions) to select a name appropriate to my language and culture with the vibe I’m going for. I selected 10 names I liked and had the five people closest to me vote on them. There was a clear winner.

Hear hear!

I actually really like this summary which goes through all the references in detail. It raises one great point in particular, even if you don’t want to get into the linguistics of gender in Greek (which also disagree with you unfortunately). The only two named angels in the Bible are Michael and Gabriel, both of which are male. The rest of it is a fascinating look at angelology in the Bible though (which has been a big hobby of mine since converting to gnosticism. Its wild knowing more about the Bible now that the catholic church thinks I’m a witch). I actually found this while looking up the Matthew verse though which this breakdown implies doesn’t mention gender but I would argue that it does. It says neither married nor given in marriage which is a distinctly gendered aspect in that cultural milieu. I do wonder if you’re maybe thinking of similar figures from other religions such as the Nordic Valkyries or Islamic Houri.

I put together a website a while back:

https://wtdiycat.vercel.app/

I’d make more of an effort to distribute it if I was happier with it. in particular I think it needs simpler language.

my father is an engineer, government contractor, and Zionist. I wonder sometimes if the Palestinians are paying for my nursing degree right now.