Deleted prior comment because the comment didnt add to the conversation and I got lost in my own spiral.

But Squid, I think its admirable to put your daughter first. Everyone with half a brain knows that decisions like this, uprooting an established family and everything you know, isnt made lightly/on a whim. You’re showing your support of her well-being, and every time you talk about her on here, you come off as such a loving parent. We should all be so lucky. And, youve talked about having chronic illness before and it sounds like youre headed to a place with socialized health care. I wish you and yours all the luck in the world.

As for my husband and I, we’re childfree by choice, so we’re the best kinda people to stay behind. The kind who can weigh decisions against our own well being and decide what we can/cant handle exposing ourselves to without mixing up a child in this mess.

Fuckin’ not staying in Texas tho.

Are you not even trying to understand how toxic masculinity has forced men to shut up and swallow their feelings, has prevented them from pursuing passions for being “too girly”/not lucrative enough to provide for their family? How its pushed “strongman” narratives, and anything less than that is seen as “weaker/less than”? You cant see how male rape/abuse victims are treated differently than female rape/abuse victims?

Like, if you really cant open your eyes to how that may really affect someones mental health/quality of life, then I think you should do some work on learning empathy.

The 25 year old dude working at the gas station is not the reason the patriarchy is an issue. He’s struggling along with the rest of us, and we’re telling him he has nothing to complain about and has it easier. Thats not okay.

I dont think men *don’t * extend empathy to us. I think Ive seen a hard shift from my parents (Gen X, they were young when they had me), to my Millenial husband and my friends. The vast majority (that Ive met, admittedly), seem like they’re on our side.

But it feels like theyre also trying to be like “Hey, we’re dealing with shit too”, and we’re turning around and being like “Not right now” and its been “Not Right Now” for 30+ years.

Are men perfect? Nah, but neither are we, and we have to make space for them to be validated as victims/people with struggles too. And we can also remind them to call out each other when theyre incorrect, and we need to do the same thing for each other which is what Im trying to do now.

Dont be the reason that Lib women get an even worse rep than we already have. We can discuss both perspectives!

I agree, as a woman who very much cares about inclusive feminism. By silencing men who talk about their issues/pains, we push them further away. By pretending like men don’t have worries/fears/needs/wants, we’re doing them a disservice.

The Patriarchy hurts everyone. Men need to know that if theyre abused by a woman, it doesnt make them “less of a man”, nor is it “their fault”. No one deserves abuse. They, as victims deserve to be acknowledged and handled with care, and have their abuse investigated/taken seriously just as much as a woman does.

There’s room enough for us all to be equal.

Yeah I’m in Texas and my spam filter looks just like OPs and others who have posted in this thread.

Im starting to think this is a general American issue and not a swing state-vs-solid state issue

Less than mid troll 🥱

Anyone who is not an able-bodied straight white Christian male with money should be concerned about this user’s viewpoints.

I’ve never seen a gif mirror my reaction before.

Fuck man, even the tiniest possible cruise cabins still have room for a stand up shower, toilet, and sink. And they fit a queen sized bed.

Knock down a wall or two and don’t make people share a communal bathroom like they’re recruits in basic training.

Lil Column “A”, Lil Column “B”

Yup. Stuck to my guns for over a year, and Lemmy didnt grow like I thought it would. Started using Reddit more regularly again in September.

Now, I do still only use it in the browser, no app, so my usage of Lemmy still far surpasses Reddit.

But there are some communities that either never made the migration or faced active hostility, so, gotta go to Reddit to be a part of them 🤷‍♀️.

Bruh, if I got out and fulfilled my IRR honorably and whatnot, and then I was recalled years later, I would promptly smoke all the pot in reasonable distance from me the moment I received that recall notice.

Yes, my husband was on the suspended list in our county for years, despite us owning the same home since 2013. He’d even fill out the little address verification card and send it back, stating that the location on record was still valid. Didnt matter, because every single election he would still pop up “suspended” at the polls. He had his TDL, and he’d have to fill out an extra form, but he’d be allowed to vote.

This year, I decided enough was enough and we put our house up for sale, because once I leave Texas this time, I’m not coming back.

I contacted our county registrars office to get our VUIDs so I could update our new address at our rental, and we found out he just…didnt have a VUID? They had no record of him voting in Texas at all…yet he’s been able to vote with a “suspended” status with his TDL for years now…living at an address he hasnt deviated from since he originally registered in Texas.

Honestly, I think he was just finally removed since he’d been in “suspended” so long 🤷‍♀️. Im unsure if it was a legit mistake, or if some genuine fuckery was going on.

But we’re all gucci now. Both confirmed registration again back in September. Awaiting 21 Oct with bated breath!

LMAO what is this from? It looks hilarious!

Mr. Moreno, I’m 35 (high risk age), my husband and I dont want kids, I have an IUD, and the military (as of rn) will give me convalescent leave if I ever had to go get an abortion.

Its not me I’m worried about.

I’m worried about the high school aged daughters of heavily Conservative parents. I’m worried about the lower socio-economic class people who cannot afford to travel for an abortion, and also cannot afford a child.

You CAN be scared for people without being personally affected. Just saying.

Bro, you asked a “difficult question”, and I gave an IRL answer.

You said “Is there a line drawn for abortion?”

I said “No, nor should there be, this is why.”

I expounded on why there shouldnt be a line. Im not sure what youre failing to grasp here.

You’re telling on yourself rn. You obviously have zero empathy for couples/women in an intensely tragic situation.

There isnt a line at this time, nor should there be, for the reasons that Ive stated.

Its absolutely inhumane to expect a woman to navigate an arbitrary line when they have to make one of the worlds most difficult decisions, just because it makes some other people feel better.

This scene used to make me cry, but now I have a picture of my tourist ass crying in front of the Hachiko statue in Shibuya, while my husband and friends are all standing around smiling and having a good time, and I cant help but be reminded of how absurd my emotions can be at times.

No one is advocating for abortions at 8 months unless the women’s (or fetus’) life is in some kind of danger.

Why on earth would a woman put up with the absolute hell that is pregnancy for 8 months, and then just wake up one day and decide “Meh, nvm, Im not actually all that into it” completely unprompted?

It makes no sense and it doesn’t happen. At 8 months, numerous appointments have happened, a nursery of some kind has been put together, baby showers have been had, names have been picked out, vices of all kinds have been foregone (not just alcohol/smoking, modern women give up stuff like lunchmeats/fish/coffee) etc.

If a woman is getting an abortion at 8 months, something went very fucking wrong, and it’s a tragedy all around, so we shouldn’t add the stress of navigating legislation on top of all that.