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Cake day: 2023年6月12日

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  • I appreciate your response, but I was just curious as to what the original commenter thinks she needed redemption for. Apparently they think that being “vapid and vacuous” requires a redemption arc, despite likely not knowing her personally and having no actual knowledge of her real personality. There are only so many ways for someone to bounce back from a leaked sex tape and she chose hers and I just don’t think it requires an apology (as Carl alludes to elsewhere in this thread).

    I think the article strengthens the idea that we have no idea who she is and what her life has been like, so unless she’s actually wronged someone, I don’t see a need for a redemption. For what it’s worth, I was aware of the content of the article you shared, but I didn’t think it was relevant to why she should be seeking redemption. Though I do appreciate you attempting to add context.








  • I don’t know your kid or your relationship with them or anything, so I’m just speaking in generalities, but most trans people I know really appreciate being called by their preferred name and pronouns. If your kid is using certain pronouns with new people or with their friends that they are out to, it might be nice to give them a try. Maybe not, again I don’t know you both, but just because someone is willing to joke about pronouns doesn’t necessarily mean they don’t actually care about them. Seems like you really care for your kid and I’m sure that if they wanted to be referred to with new pronouns that you’d be able to figure it out. Wishing you both the best.


  • It probably also depends a bit on how you use your account. I have a more professional account and one that I use for personal projects that I might not want an employer seeing. I might not want to taint my personal one with an association to AI, but the professional one would really depend on how good the project was in the first place since most employers nowadays don’t really care. If it was really unclean and buggy I might not want my professional account associated, but if it was a project I thought a lot of people could benefit from and the code itself was passable I would probably make a pull request.


  • He talks about increasing benefits for people in the military and increasing recruitment. That doesn’t sound like someone who is reflecting on the military in any way that aligns with my ideals.

    I’d love to see people talk about reforming the military and ensuring better channels of reporting. He states he personally saw people target civilians, but I don’t see him campaigning about better whistleblower protections. Maybe I missed it because I’m not following it that closely, but he seems to wholly support the military and just be upset about fraud and waste and not about the raping and Geneva convention violations.


  • That’s fair.

    I also think it’s a fair assessment to say that younger gens are doing it more. I think in part it’s because there’s been a big cultural shift in such a small time period and a larger portion of the younger population has moved with it. It’s hard to act lovingly towards people who are in your view unrepentantly supporting backsliding on centuries of progress.

    I obviously have no details about your relationship with your kids, and I know you didn’t ask, but it’s possible he’d be interested in explaining his thought process if he felt you’d be receptive to hearing him out. At least you’ll know why he blamed you for something you were powerless to stop. I’m always sad to hear about people going no contact because I have and I know how hard it is. The people were such big parts of my life and though I have gotten to a place where I don’t long to repair the relationship, if they reached out and I felt like they came with an open mind and an open heart I’d be glad for the chance. Sometimes it just takes someone reaching out. Maybe your son doesn’t feel the same way, but good luck to you both.