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Cake day: December 22nd, 2023

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  • You are not a buzzkill, I think. This skit had a couple of things going for it:

    1. Halloween can always use more “mascots” and this is one.
    2. I admit that I originally didn’t like this skit, but my brother-in-law did, and I like him, so after watching it I always think of him until eventually it became something I genuinely liked.
    3. I quote lines from this skit to my SO all the time, so it’s become kind of embedded into my life.
    4. SNL during this time wasn’t very funny to me. I think that since SNL sucked during this time, even moderately funny skits ended up exploding in popularity just because they weren’t the usual onslaught of comedians stumbling over their lines and ruining jokes. Weekend Update was pretty funny, though.

    So in short, my friend, it’s not really funny. It was a moment, and you may have missed it. But let me say this, I think you’re cool for kicking off Spooky season…

    … Almost as cool as DaViD ESS pUmKiNs!


  • I can’t comment on the depression thing that others have mentioned. You’ll know if that rings true for your situation or not.

    I’m gonna say something to you that someone had to say to me once: she really likes you. That may explain why she enjoys spending time with her.

    The other day I was asking my SO “what’s the highest compliment a woman could be paid by their partner”? She responded “it would be ‘I really enjoy spending time with you’”. I realized in that moment that while I have tons of fun playing video games, watching shows, or even just sitting alone by my self, she really enjoys being around me and spending time together. It’s how she’s wired.

    And even more than that, because I’m “her man”, even when she’s out and about with other friends, her experience would be enhanced if I were out with her.

    This changed me in a couple of ways.

    1. I invite her to kill time with me in the same room even if we’re doing different things (I know you already do this)
    2. I am intentional about holding off on some of my preferred “alone” time to do an activity with her because I know she will really enjoy it.
    3. I intentionally take time for myself to do things that recharge me without her. (Long gaming sessions, watching a tv series, taking a night in while she’s got plans with friends, scheduling a drink/meal with one of my friends).

    Beyond the above, I think it’s important to acknowledge that the guilt you experience when you turn her down is coming from inside yourself. It may be worth talking about it with a wise friend or (better yet) a therapist (which is something helpful that I did). You may have a habit of taking too much responsibility for the wellness of others.

    Congrats on having a person who really loves you! For introverts like us, being around someone all the time makes those rare moments when we’re alone truly euphoric. However, I can tell you from experience that the “alone time” gets old reeeeeal quick when it’s unlimited.




  • You have had a major loss.

    I’m glad you are still with us to share this story. You wrote in such a clear and eloquent way; it’s clear you cared very much about us that you took the time to communicate effectively.

    My father is currently in a nursing home (just for normal end of life stuff). He was a deadbeat most of my life and treated his health really poorly.

    It’s cruel that he was able to live the way he did and live for so long, while you’ve done nothing to “earn” your maladies; yet, you’re both in a similar situation (except no one wants to go see him, because of him being a PoS for most of his life). You don’t seem like a deadbeat or a PoS, so as far as I’m concerned, you win.

    I hope things turn around completely for you and you’re restored back to full health.