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  • SupaTuba@lemm.eetoA Boring Dystopia@lemmy.world•Where Have All My Deep Male Friendships Gone?
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    18 days ago

    As a woman with a few close male friends that I love very much, I wish it was more ok to hug and hold hands with them. I wish that friends, regardless of gender, could be close.

    For some reason, in America, we just assume some kind of sexual attraction or relationship when people have any kind of physical contact.

    But, man, sometimes I just want to hug my best friend when we’re both going through it. Sometimes, I just want to hold hands for the comfort of knowing that we’ve got each other. There’s nothing more to this want. It’s as simple as that. But it feels like an impossible dream for society to ever accept this.

    So I don’t. And it hurts.

    I dream of a day when men and women can all open up freely to each other, equally and without stigma. And a day when we can all comfort each other without rumors or questions.

  • SupaTuba@lemm.eetoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Partner has ADD, do I have misophonia?
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    26 days ago

    Yep. I have ADHD and I’d never subject someone else to the cooking video I forgot about, with the tutorial I’m watching, with the Spotify playlist I forgot was on, while the menu track plays on the game I was about to play.

    This would be torture for any other human. Even if I, with my ADHD, walked into a room that sounded just like what I just described, I’d be incredibly unable to concentrate. I can only tune out a cacophony of my own doing.

    Also, OP, I have misophonia, and this is not that. You are rightfully unable to handle this level of noise. Misophonia is more an intolerance to certain specific sounds. Like I’m 100% peaceful but random kissing noises and smacking make me imagine driving a dagger into someone’s chest. That sort of thing.