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  • For the people who read “fertilize” and think pollinate: plants already do this a lot.

    I’m not going to knock this research, but we’re doing so much work in understanding and cultivating the soil microbiome which seems more promoting. For example, bean plants, especially will do a lot to cultivate nitrogen-fixing bacteria, and farmers are starting to add bacteria to the soil like they would add fertilizer.








  • I think this is a really interesting take. Communism doesn’t mean taking a vow of poverty or being a good person, but I can see how it would seem hypocritical to not spend that money funding support for labor rather than hoarding it.

    It’s probably worth exploring why people over 14 listen to his music and his politics. One interesting reason is people who resonate with the emotional core of the music, but disagree or don’t understand his politics. Another is people who genuinely feel that violence may be necessary to bring about communism. Additionally, some people feel catharsis listening to violent music/media without supporting violence.

    I think it’s worthwhile to empathize with people you disagree with. It can help better understand their viewpoint and solidify yours by contrast.

    I’m curious, do you have any recommendations for music made by leftists who aren’t rich and don’t support violence? It’s ok if not, I’m just interested in expanding my listening.




  • His response is absolutely not an appropriate response for an equal partner to make, and he knows it and knows you didn’t do it to “make him feel guilty.” He feels bad and so he wants you to feel bad, and that’s just not how adults deal with their feelings. I feel close to this because I could see myself slipping into being like this person if I weren’t devoted to being an equal partner.

    If he wants to be an equal partner, he needs to own up to his mistakes, acknowledge the emotional labor you’re doing, and come up with accommodations for his shortcomings. You have tried to accommodate for him, and that’s just taking on more emotional labor without any payoff. You’re not his mother, your his spouse, you shouldn’t have to tell him what, when, and how to take care of these things. He may need accommodations, and he can ask for help, but you can’t accommodate for him.

    That said, my spouse and I both struggle with ADHD and one way we’ve accommodated our shortcomings is we have a stamp sheet which we fill out every week with cute stamps depending on who completed the task (mine is a penguin). It’s taken a lot of the emotional labor off of both of us, and shows what we need to do or if we’re done for the week and can relax. I’m not saying that solution will help in your case, but recognizing he has a problem, needs accommodations which may involve the whole household is the second step he needs to take. The first, of course, being that he needs to stop trying to make you feel bad because he feels bad. He’s gotta cut that shit out.



  • No, you might be a primitivist, feudalist, syndicalist, or any of many other ways of organizing society. What you adopt will depend on your values and how you perceive the relationship between people and capital. Ultimately the labels are helpful up to a point, because the application of theory, or praxis, will manifest in ways to meet the need of your time.

    Just to get ahead of it, capitalist can mean both one who supports capitalism as a way to organize society, and one who owns capital. From context it’s clear we mean the former definition.