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Cake day: July 16th, 2023
  • TudbuT@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPtoTransfem@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Severe anxiety & coming out
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    5 hours ago

    Dysphoria is not what makes someone transgender!

    Yeah I know. I’ve already cut off ties with that friend mostly.

    CW: rest of this message is infused with my brain worms around passing

    Many transfem people do not pass. […] You don’t owe it to anyone to look a certain way before you can be yourself.

    I’d actually rather live with dysphoria forever and simply be dissociated and self-hating the whole time. Not because I don’t think I’d be a “real woman”, but because if I can’t for the most part look like a cis woman, I’m STILL going to have the dysphoria, but then I’m also going to have to deal with people telling me I’m an abomination - it’d only make things worse because it would just add to the existing pain.

    Then again there is basically no way for HRT to make me look worse, and I already look so fem that if I was actually trying I could probably already pass.

  • TudbuT@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOPtoTrans@lemmy.blahaj.zone•Severe anxiety & coming outEnglish
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    5 hours ago

    Going to queer events and making new friends would be a great way to expand your support network. Depending on the size of your town, you’re probably going to run into the same people pretty often and you’ll get to know them over time.

    Funnily enough, I have been to a queer event. Except then I just stood on the sidelines the entire time, always far enough away for nobody to notice I’m even there.

  • TudbuT@lemmy.blahaj.zonetoLinux@lemmy.ml•Why do you still hate Windows?English
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    16 hours ago

    I find Linux to be MUCH easier to use. Granted, this is unusual, especially for an i3wm user, but hear me out: Although Linux has a very steep learning curve and using it seems very hard at first, this difficulty is short-lived. Getting anywhere is significantly faster and requires fewer steps, and the “simplicity” of windows quickly turns into complexity when you actually want to multitask and keep having to resize and click through dozens of windows.

    Of course, I also really like the freedom of actually owning my system, and that of tinkering with all the software on it when I am annoyed at something not being how I’d like. Privacy is a nice bonus, but honestly the lesser concern since I already have none anyway by owning a phone and being too lazy to degoogle it.