It’s a reply of children because adults want to be angry with them, not find out why they did something, so people like you tell them to “just be responsible” etc without ever listening or offering support.

So if an adult wants to yell at you, you say “i dont know” and let the angry windbag rant and rave. From the kid’s POV the adult/teacher don’t care about the reason (y’all usually don’t) you just want to have your ego bruised by a whole ass child dealing with whole ass life not about you being late.

But “i dont know” is easier than “mom has a new boyfriend who keeps me up all night and i sleep late” you still probably wouldn’t listen or would then tell the child how they should handle the neglect of their education by their parents themselves, rather than show empathy and understanding.

Because it’s about them listening to you, not about them being tiny people with no emotional regulation or rights trying to navigate a world where they are treated like little adults with zero power to escape abusive situations in school or at home of their own power, unlike you an adult who isnt the property of your parents.

But yeah they’re just stupid little twerps looking to pull one over on you, right? They dont have complex lives outside of their time with you, they spend all day making sure how to make you feel disrespected by showing up late!

And that is why you get “i dont know”.

It sounds like you wont listen to reason, if you dont understand or can’t experience a situation yourself.

That means you can only work with or bw friends with people like you. That’s a very small window of tolerance.

Sounds like a rigged game: if someone wants to feel like the blame is being shifted.

What good is blame anyway if you want to fix the problem in the first place? I’ll never get it. It feels primally cathartic to blame a person, but it fixes the issues to find the reason.

Hey you know what, when you’re in love, whatever works. So many people are lonely, at least they found each other. 🥹

It will do discord? That’s amazing, I will have to look back into it. Discord has been awful for a while, but getting people to switch is impossible. 😩

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I haven’t thought of those apps for years, I used Pidgin! I had to look up the program name.

I didn’t realize there was deep lore in an egg_irl post, i took it as the comic it was.

Without that background information, (that is not included unless i stalk the OP, which doesn’t feel like it would endear anyone to my participation) it feels close to a comic could reinforce the “you can’t win trying to be supportive to queer people these days” energy since there’s nothing clear about there being a boundary made by the other person in the comic? Maybe there’s something i missed on the lemmy ui, I’m willing to admit!

As an older queer i am not quite sure when we decided clothing meant anything (again) since growing up it was something we already tried to work on in the queer community, just look into lesbian spaces and their attempts to uncouple femininity from being required to dress up. Have binary identities and enforcing trans people to present a particular way backfired into hyper gendered expressions being required?

Another question is how can the community help individuals vulnerable to invalidation of parts of their identity? I know everyone needs support as a whole and in general in their lives. The ability to stand strong in yourself in the storm can’t be manufactured without a foundation, and how do we help newbies find that with the atmospheres as tense as they are, even in queer spaces?

Is that question really “in good-faith” to “that law doesn’t apply in my country”?

Sounds like we should have made ISPs government owned then!

That giving of yourself and being discerning, you could make sure to find balanced relationships.

People lie, to you and to themselves. Everyone wants to say they’re going to be their best person when times are tough. Reality can be quite different when the pain kicks in or dynamics change.

But at this point after countless emergencies while being the one to stand up in the end to carry the sisyphean boulders, the truth is people are going to stand back in a panic when shit hits the fan and I’m going to be the one to figure things out.

Best compromise I have settled on is surrounding myself with people who will help when I ask. It’s up to me to ask, plan, and keep all our heads above water, which is exausting, but they won’t blow me off.

It’s the best I have been able to find of the available optional combination of traits in people i find attractive. 🙃

Buuuut having them on your truck makes “deez nutz” jokes funnier!

I guess if the person knows about the truck nuts, that is.

Or if you’re at your truck when you make the joke…

I’ve been pretty lazy about changing stores since they had the easiest pick up i had found in my area, but i guess this is the ass kick i need to make sure i never go back.

Sucks they own almost all the groceries in my area. But i can trust that it’s not a monopoly, right?

Groceries prices deeeeefinately aren’t inflated. Nope. All good here.

Worst thing I didn’t realize from being young is: keeping people around who are going to eventually leave no matter what cuz they didn’t actually respect me isn’t worth it.

Show them enough respect to get what you need out of them but don’t be friendly with them because they don’t actually care about you and none of it’s real. They’re being social friendly just enough but it’s not real and they don’t really care about you.

Don’t get emotionally invested and don’t let people close to you who don’t know you and who you know cause you pain, otherwise you’re just causing self harm to not be alone and the scars will ruin close social relationships. Colleagues should ne at arm’s length you, can tell them that they’re being inappropriate, you can just walk away you, can ignore them, be cold to them give them social situations to make them feel uncomfortable like they do you and cut them out.

I promise you in 2 years agter graduation none of them will probably be around. None of them will probably helped you with a job (networking it almost exclusively better with older people in the industry NOT your own rivals for jobs).

And you’re going to have spent time juggling relationships that were a waste of your time and that they never cared. Carry around scars for your future partners and friends, ways you wont trust because of a casual acquaintance. It’s as bad as having a cheating partner for causing you to mistrust and feel unsable to force yourself to be friendly with people who don’t care about you.

None of what they say matters to them or they even process it in social situations. They dont put themselves into your shoes.

I’m it feels like everything to you and so it feels like it’ll be everything to them, but no they won’t remember you for anythings but a stereotypes they formed in their head 2 months after you haven’t been around. Then a year later they may have the vaguest recollection.

Only you will remember this in 10 years. Act with respect for yourself, not them and not what you’ve been told they’ll be good for.

Because you won’t lie at night wishing you had given more of yourselves to others. You wont wish you made yourself more vulnerable, more easy to hurt by letting cold and thoughtless people into a close place where they can hurt you. You’ll wish you had walked away rather than cause wounds you’ll never be able to heal.

Is that the take away from the comic? I see it as more someone trying to explore through clothing and someone saying theyw would be supportive?

Are we so defensive we can’t even have that anymore? Are we unable to discuss gender presentation and identity detached from transition? What about nonbinary identities? Some people explore that and transition, some don’t.

Are we really supposed to be regressive and call it self protection? Are we at the “respectable transgender” era along with “I’m gay but I don’t know about this trans stuff” already?

Do you have a movie or show as an example specifically or just a general “can”?

You hitch your pony with Sony, whomever is there when it drops gets to present it to the world unfortunately. You lose any ability to be independent and you’re release ends up being remembered and known by what gets sent out.

It was lazy in the end stretch no matter how much time was sunk into it at any one time. How long was Starfield in developmen after all, it still felt lazy and so did what I saw of Concord.

Sucks to work on something and have the group you teamed up with tank the whole thing, but you still gotta know who you signed up with, and Sony was clearly done working on the project.

Lol i cant even with the whole thing.

However, even with all those factors, no one could possibly have predicted the scale of its failure.

I didn’t hear about it UNTIL the failure. I think it wasn’t expected to do well, i don’t think it was advertised well, and it was a lazy cash grab in a filled market no one asked for.

Just because a game gets made doesn’t make it good, wanted, or timed well.

Stardew Valley came out in 2016, but I didn’t see any traffic for a few years outside people who had been waiting for it. It took off around 2019 according to google trends.

Most devs wont give the game time to even improve anymore, let alone join friends in a multiplayer game. Concord’s google trends start the day before it released.

My question would be how much of this is actors no longer being completely subjected to the gross wims of the director. How many scenes had little to do with a story and felt more like the director using the opportunity to make pretty people obey them.

We have intimacy directors now and what may also be happening is individuals having more say in production and in their bodily autonomy and I don’t see that as an issue particularly.

Did random sex scenes really hit the level of art for you folks? Is pornography art the same way? 🤔 You know both are made for mass sale and consumption usually, the same way, much more than trying to make content to say anything.

But um “it so bad we block the titties!” or whatever is popular to say. Even though i personally don’t remember many that added anything story related. Show me them bonding in a real way, sex doesn’t cement anything if you’ve ever had a cheating partner, but a real collection of moments spent together between them that shows understanding and sacrifice for each other can really have an impact.

Does he currently get money if you use JavaScript like the Brave CEO gets for his products?