And smart clients/UIs like tesseract realise that the link is to a remote lemmy instance, and then give you the option of viewing it remotely or from your own instances perspective

Existing stress, changing temperature and shifting building structure. Any and all of those can cause it

On the horizon? They crossed that horizon a long time ago. It’s just going to accelerate now

Any place with anonymous/ephermal account and posts as the default is going to attract the worst people in the world…

I understand your position, and that it makes sense to you. I personally feel that there is a degree of overreach involved when action is taken based on behavior that happens outside of an instance

Let me challenge that. The issue isn’t where they gatekeep, it’s the fact that they do it at all. People willing to explicitly and deliberately undermine gender diverse folk when these conversations come up are a problem if our users can just stumble across them. It doesn’t matter where the user is posting, if they’re not banned, their content can and will be seen by blahaj users.

And trying to escape that shit is why so many of us have left twitter, reddit, tumblr and other centralised social media sites that just don’t give a shit about transphobia. The users here come here precisely because that shit is stomped out when it’s found.

Giving people a free pass because they post outside of blahaj communities just makes the overall experience similar to a mini reddit or twitter or facebook. Individual users have to each encounter the bigot, and then block them. Each of them exposed to the bigotry first.

And I appreciate that some queer folk want that experience. And that’s the power of federation. They can be on an instance that doesn’t react the way blahaj does. But many folk don’t want to see that shit at all. They don’t want to stumble across gatekeepers and bigots and people willing to actively deny them their own identity. And that’s what blocking folk at the instance level does. They don’t need to see the shit first before they can block it. Much of it is gone before it ever crosses folks feeds.

There is no power tripping in this approach. It is a very considered and deliberate approach that lets us avoid defederation of whole instances. Folk who don’t want that experience are welcome to host their user accounts on other instances, whilst still joining in with our communities. Or host accounts on our instance and other instances like many folk do.

There is no plan to control what people see here. Just an approach that gives a vulnerable community the option of a relatively bigotry free feed.

Thanks again for engaging

Right back at you :)

I just want to clarify. The only people getting banned for remote comments are people who knowingly and explicitly gatekeep other folks identity in response to this topic coming up. They are banned so that they don’t start appearing in blahaj communities with the very people they’re invalidating.

To me, there’s no difference. If someone’s response to this topic coming up is to double down on gatekeeping, it doesn’t make them any less harmful just because they did it outside of a blåhaj community.

Do not confront the people doing bad things

That’s not the rule. The rule is don’t misgender them.

If you can’t use their pronouns or otherwise interact with them without invalidating their identity, then, you aren’t to interact with them.

Alguien robo mi telefono en Santiago, pero ella tiene muchos lugares excelentes para hamburguesas y cervezas :)

Up to 7 years or so to get back as much as you’re going to get back.

The rough rule of thumb is that once HRT takes care of your T levels, your hairline can regrow to approximately where it was 7 years prior. There are no guarantees, and it’s a very rough rule of thumb, but regrowth is a thing :)

Reports federate, in a limited way. They federate to the instance the community is hosted on, the instance the reported user is hosted on, the instance the reporting user is hosted on (well technically, it doesn’t federate to the last one, as that is where it started). I don’t believe that a report will federate to a remote instance that doesn’t meet one of those criteria, even if it hosts a moderator for the community, but I’m not certain about this one.

Either way, report resolutions don’t directly federate, so resolving a report doesn’t resolve it on the other instances. It looks like they federate, because post removal from a mod federates, and removing a post auto closes the report. However, a report that was spurious or a troll or whatever that isn’t going to be actioned, has to be manually closed down on each instance it federates to.

I’m panromantic, but attracted to men, however I only date women and gender diverse folk on that end of the gender spectrum. My partner is a woman :)

Estaba en Santiago de Chile en Enero de 2024, pero nunca he estado en EEUU

I’m not the OP, but their question was pretty much describing me.

For me, it’s about intimacy. I value intimacy. Hugging, kissing, touching, holding hands, sharing moments, laying on the couch together watching TV etc. Those are things that I don’t do with my friends, and aren’t things that I’m looking for from my friends.

Asexual folk have developed language that talks about the way they navigate similar situations. Sex averse, sex neutral and sex positive. So even though I’m not ace, the terms apply in a similar way to my relationships. Using these terms, I would describe myself as sex neutral. Which is to say that I don’t seek it out, and I don’t miss it. Yet, it’s also a very strong form of intimacy, which I value a great deal, and as an expression of intimacy, it’s very much something I’m happy to share with my partner.

That’s pretty much me. I don’t really have a name for it. I just call myself queer, or sometimes panromantic.

Yo tambien! Soy australiania, pero hablo espanol :)

The only people who were banned were gatekeeping other folks identities. If you find an example of someone that was banned who didn’t do that, I will unban them.

If you find that inconsistent or confusing, I’m not sure what to tell you…

Phones are already too small. I use a fold because it’s the only way I can get a decent sized phone now!

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If someone back then was banned for gatekeeping or misgendering and won’t do that anymore, not only will they not be banned in “retaliation”, their banned account will be unbanned. All they need to do is reach out to me

If someone back then was banned for gatekeeping and misgendering, but didn’t do those things, not only will they not be banned in “retaliation”, their banned account will be unbanned. All they need to do is reach out to me.

If someone back then was banned for gatekeeping and misgendering and they don’t reach out to me, I still I won’t ban their new account if I become aware of it, because the point of all of this is to make it clear that gatekeeping and misgendering are not on. If they’re not doing that on their second account, their second account won’t get banned, because the first ban achieved its purpose.

tl;dr - Whoever they are, if they’re not gatekeeping and misgendering folk, they’ll be fine.