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Cake day: June 29th, 2023

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  • I was talking about how we always have this type of discussion frequently with my therapist earlier today. It’s always nice to pause and remind ourselves and those outside of our philosophy. One thing that I’d like to add is we might not be(e) nice sometimes because of personal circumstances. We are having a bad day and a comment will trigger a reaction that would be uncommon or we might be aggressive without provocation.

    In cases we feel the need to hit back, I’d advise postponing the response by at least one hour. Give yourself time to clear your mind and think things over. And if you are the target of users having a bad day, reminding them that they are not be(e)ing nice is the alternative. Asking questions is the best. “Did I offend you?”, “Did I say something wrong?”, “I don’t understand what the issue is.” Even if they keep the aggression, they will point to the specific issue that needs to be worked on, or prove they don’t want to discuss genuinely.




  • I looked it up after commenting. It’s a Trapalhões movie. I probably watched it as a child. I don’t know how or when you watched it, but I would have to defend it for historical reasons. It’s the first movie with the four comedians that formed the main group together. The special effects are awful for being filmed using videotapes and sending them to the USA for transferring to 35mm (an illegal act at the time). They are clowns, as in circus clowns making cinema, which informs a lot of the comedy.

    All that to say, as before, it’s good dreadful, something not everyone even believe exists.