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1 year agoI wrote a long comment that got lost. Uh…
TLDR If the feeling is mutual it’s about not fumbling the ball more than racing to the finish line. Work on yourself if you aren’t proud of who you are. Strengthen friendships, especially mutual ones. Treasure the feeling and be kind to both of you.
Ah yeah I can’t remember everything I wrote. I was a long the lines of what some people are saying, “take it slow”. IMO don’t bury your feelings or fully expose them.
It’s a little paradoxical sometimes. The more important your time is with someone, the slower you go. Because that means you consider it precious. If you just go for it in a way it means you are prepared to lose them. Of course you can wait too long, but as long as day to day is happy and nothing is between you, I hope you can progress in a natural way.
Perhaps you can be honest about your feeling without being forceful. Just show genuine happiness, prioritize time, and your friends can catch on. Then if there is an issue someone can tell you discreetly. And if you let it out slowly you have time as you say, to understand the feelings. And maybe she is also unsure, who knows?
I wish you good luck. I hope you dodge any ugliness and no matter what happens you can look back in years and smile about it.