mar_k [he/him]

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Cake day: February 19th, 2023

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  • Ok, I would recommend texting lines and other online services instead of a counselor. I also think finding productive forums for this could help you out (places with actual support, not places that will make you feel worse).

    Don’t ever assure someone in a bad position that it’ll get better.

    I didn’t though. I said “life changes for the better for people all the time,” even people in extreme lifelong conditions like yours. I didn’t assure you anything will get better. I just meant it’s possible and attainable if you work towards it. That might be hard in your current state, but I don’t think it’s impossible. There’s a ton of good people out there. I’d hug you right now if I could.


  • mar_k [he/him]@hexbear.nettoWholeSomeMemes@lemmy.mlPeople love you quietly
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    I’m sorry to hear that. You deserve as much as anyone, you’re not unlovable. I wish I could help you, but I’m not too good at this, or knowing what to say.

    I’ve been suicidal before, and while I haven’t experienced anything like that, I can assure you that life changes for the better for people all the time, even if it doesn’t seem like it will. You’re not stuck. There’s a lot of coldness in this world, but there’s also people you can meet if you put yourself out there. The other comment you got was sort of toxic, but they’re right in that if you put effort in it doesn’t have to be like that.

    I’d also recommend looking for community resources, local counselors, and maybe using a texting crisis line, like this. Idk about lemmy but there’s also probably a lot of productive mental health forums you can find all over the internet, for people with similar experiences that might be able to help you out better.



  • The far left eating its own

    Dude, blajah is as liberal as most instances here. Their top community literally has a banner that says “fuck tankies.” There was a lot of drama between our instances and hostility from the blajah mods/admins (leaking private pms to make fun of, an ableist slur from a mod, saying they’ll ban users over “tankie behavior” or “anything iffy from hexbear users,” etc).

    The only way we might’ve seen them as our allies was that we’re both largely queer communities. We never agreed on politics, but were willing to put that aside until all the hostility.











  • almost completely non-political: c/food, c/diy, c/gardening, c/tabletop, c/hobby, c/fashion, c/travel, c/mycology, c/gamedev, c/ttrpg, c/libre

    90% non-political: c/music, c/movies, c/anime, c/earth, c/neurodiverse, c/cars, c/paganism, c/judaism, c/writing

    usually non-political: c/games, c/fitness, c/art, c/science, c/philosophy, c/worldbuilding, c/languagelearning, c/vegan, c/poverty_finance

    generally half or more non-political: c/technology, c/chat, c/urbanism, c/agriculture, c/maritime, c/finance, c/christianity, c/ama, c/creepy, c/islam



  • Yeah I feel like it’s mostly a cultural thing. In the past, women were discouraged (and at a certain point not allowed) from playing chess, so it’s always been a male dominated hobby

    In general, women tend to be reluctant to get into male dominated interests and occupations when there isn’t a welcoming, large enough space for them (e.g. depending on gender roles and expectations, some countries have mostly male doctors, some have an equal amount of male/female doctors, and some have mostly female doctors). So there isn’t exactly a large enough pool of women who care enough to really get into chess and make achievements in it. it’s also just, kind of a boring hobby to get into imo