Hey, I know we’re all just bullshitting, but dreaming up fake statistics to invalidate someone else’s opinion is really fucking dumb. Also, using statistics at all to invalidate someone, as if we all have to ascribe to the majority opinion, is really fucking dumb. Just all-around really dumb.

Aunt Arctica, duh

I pull on walkies

Ahh, i always forget about parts 1 and 2! I guess it’s too late to rewatch them before tomorrow.

I definitely agree, that’s why supporting a woman’s right to choose is important. There may be good advice here about not putting your self-worth on other people (lovers or children), but it’s hidden in all the talk of ancestors and bloodlines. Probably trying to score points with the witchymemes comm.

The first one is Jolyene, and the other two are familiar, but i can’t remember who. Is the last one Josuke?

Maybe I’m reading into it too much, but the post is speaking to someone who is unable to get married and have children, and it seems like the conclusion is basically cheer up, you’re actually going to love being childless and alone. Maybe someone needs to hear that that’s a valid choice, but it feels like it’s too eager to dismiss the reader’s desires.

Can we agree at least that “end your bloodline” is a tasteless, unnecessary flourish?

I disagree. It’s arguing that women in the past had no choice, and women STILL don’t have a choice, but they should be happy with their lack of agency because it’s a different non-choice. THEN it swings into congratulating the reader for accepting their loveless fate. “End your bloodline” is pure antinatalism.

God, rhe more I read this fucking thing, the more insidious it feels.

Kind of a lousy point, I think, discouraging women from setting personal goals and priorities for themselves because at least they’re not being abused. Maybe the point here is that the patriarchy sucks, but it sounds like a false dichotomy of supporting and engaging with the patriarchy versus bitter loneliness. To me, it invalidates women who desire healthy relationships.

I’m so excited for Steel Ball Run

Thank you for sharing. I’ve been struggling a lot with my parents, and it’s encouraging to hear your experience.

The “born this way” trope seems to be something that the media pushes a lot, and it’s wrong. Being able frame queerness as being not-by-choice helps some people give themselves permission to be queer. Anyone who is gatekeeping your identity is not an ally. Your identity is yours to do with as you please. If you’ve always been ace and only now are realizing it, great, that’s yours to determine. If you’re deciding that your identity now is ace and previously was something else, it’s your prerogative. The ability to grow and change is powerful.

Please don’t touch your server.

I’ve heard good things about transtape

Tolkien actually explains this in the books.

I do this, but I’m trans. I just think we’re cool!

The long-distance thing is hard. I would say however much you’re communicating with your girlfriend now, do it more. Double it, i don’t know. If you care about each other, then you both want to support each other through this. You don’t even have to ONLY talk about being trans, just talking and being attuned to each other will go a long way.

In my experience, my partner has been my greatest ally, and I don’t know if I could’ve done it without her. Even still, when I was questioning and deep in dysphoria, she struggled a lot to see what our relationship would become. We wrestled with the whole thing together: are we still attracted to each other? Are we still happy together? It wasn’t easy, but good communication has really helped, and I think we’re better at that than ever.

Therapy is also huge. You mentioned checking with your girlfriend to see if it’s okay for you to go to a therapist, and honestly, if she said no that would be a huge red flag. Maybe she’s uncomfortable with it for some reason, but in my opinion it’s nonnegotiable.

The leather scarf seems suffocating. Honestly, leather seems entirely wrong for this whole fit.

Congrats! What an incredible relief that must be!

Okay, warmaster