I’m afab, nb and have a very androgynous look, but with wide ish hips that kind of give me some mild dysphoria since puberty. How do you deal with a part of yourself you cant change? Any tips?
I’m afab, nb and have a very androgynous look, but with wide ish hips that kind of give me some mild dysphoria since puberty. How do you deal with a part of yourself you cant change? Any tips?
This is a really good question, and I’m hoping that my perspective can help.
There are lots of things about me that feels less masculine than I would like (aspects of my body, mannerisms, etc).
Even as someone AMAB, I have always had the issue of not looking or feeling particularly masculine, because we’re told being masculine is a bunch of specific things. That ends up leaving massive swathes of men thinking they’re weird instead of who they actually are.
Maybe that can help reframe your thought patterns more toward “men have hips like this, and men feel this way,” because both are true. It’s not you, it’s the weird social pressure thrust upon us about what a man is.
That’s a very good way of thinking about it. Thanks a lot.
It’s weird that as some that can definitely “play up” both sides of the gender binary spectrum looks wise, my hips are something that has always bothered me. Even when looking/ feeling femenine. So, reframing it is a good way to go about it, I guess.
That’s understandable, and I can relate in a different way.
My ribcage is huge, and my waist is too small so my pants don’t stay up. I think “this isn’t the shape a person is supposed to be!” a decent amount.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too. I just have to keep reminding myself that people do, in fact, come in many different shapes and types.
I feel seen, thank you. Sending you a hug.
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As a masculine afab, I kind of feel this way too. Great way to reframe things here.