• A_Union_of_Kobolds@lemmy.world
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    “Dude who’s in denial about being bisexual has hobosexual relationship with another man, is shocked that they developed feelings”

    Yeah that 100% checks out actually

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        depressingly common, was even more common before we let women have rights

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          ‘we let’ women have rights? Women fought tooth and nail for years to get those rights, and assholes are still trying to claw them away; fuck, there’s places in the US right now where women are dying because their access to healthcare has been sabotaged by a supreme court that reinterpreted the constitution to remove their rights.

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            “we” in this case could be the American government in general and the supreme court specifically. The fact that such an important right was “granted” by a decision of nine random schmucks and can be taken away by another decision (rather than being a law) is not a great look for that government.

            But you’re right that it was not the best phrasing. Activism is extremely important esp on more local levels

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    I can’t believe no one else said this but I feel it’s necessary…

    Fake and gay

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      A greentext. All the best greentexts are a wild ride. I admit it’s very much not always a window into how other people live, but it sure is a window into how other people think!

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    Can’t tell if oop is transman or transwoman or cis guy on hrt. No matter which one they are still bi and should just learn to accept it.

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        The same reason anyone would be: because their current body doesn’t match their gender identity and they want to change that. This person just happened to start inside the same arbitrary social category as their destination.

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          I’m confused

          The word cisgender (often shortened to cis; sometimes cissexual) describes a person whose gender identity corresponds to their sex assigned at birth, i.e., someone who is not transgender.

          If they’re taking hrt it sounds like they’d want to change their gender

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            Just as some AMAB (Assigned Male At Birth) men want to look more masculine and will work out at the gym or take testosterone supplements, some AMAB men are femboys and may temporarily take feminizing HRT to look less masculine.

            Both are trying to change their bodies to better fit their gender identity, and femboy is clearly a different identity from gym bro, but they are both male gender identities.

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            Low to no sexdrive and they want to have one

            Trying to stop or slow down the progression of male pattern baldness

            Loss of muscle mass.

            To fix low testosterone

            Maybe they are not trans but want to be more feminine looking.

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      since by straight they meant liking women I assume it’s a transman no? I’m unsure too though

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              They’re saying in this case, seemingly, he was born male, but a trans femboy can exist.

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              In short: Femboy is about presenting as a very feminine man, men doing that can include trans men.

              Slightly longer: It’s why there are different categories for sex, gender assigned at birth, gender identity and gender expression. A femboy would identify male and express feminine. The opposite is a tomboy, somebody who identifies as female and expresses in a masculine manner, both are not necessarily linked to the individuals sex and/or gender assigned at birth.

              Trans refers to a different gender identity than the gender assigned at birth and doesn’t come into play here.

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      Anon is a closeted bi and open femboy, and just doesn’t want to admit he likes it. Meanwhile, he’s totally fine being someone’s FB for free rent, but also feels guilty that he is kinda messing with his other friends in the meantime.

      Basically, Anon is a moron.

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        > writes gay fanfic with really weird twists
        > wtf, gay shit is fucking weird

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    Is self-identified cis people getting HRT a thing? I’m genuinely curious, I assume it’s all DIY, right? In any case, that was a wild ride

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      Yeah a cis dude might get testosterone if his normal testosterone is low. I assume there’s something similar for women. I don’t think that’s what this guy is talking about though.

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        It’s fairly common for women to start taking estrogen post menopause because their estrogen levels drop, and that can cause issues like losing bone density. I believe HRT was originally developed specifically for that reason, and it was only later that they tried using it to treat gender dysphoria.

        But in this case, they specifically call out being a femboy on HRT, which I think pretty clearly says that they’re on estrogen for that female figure. Whether it’s DIY or just informed consent is anyone’s guess, though.

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          That’s one possibility I thought off, but there’s another one: He says he’s straight, but doesn’t mention being cis, so he could be a trans man taking testosterone (HRT isn’t necessarily estrogens).

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                  even if the intentions are well meaning, egging someone carries the risk of misgendering a cis person. be supportive, but respect what people currently call themselves until they tell you otherwise

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                Find its own gender can be a process. And each is unique. He/she, that’s not what matters after all.

                And you can see my other reply next to ,

                Sorry, English, you know…

                Was a joke, maybe bad, my bad …

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      wonder how some of the greedier telehealth hrt providers (not naming names but it’s all on Google) would react if someone straight up said “I’m cis but want to be more attractive to a certain demographic, gimme the femboy pills”. I’d give 70/30 they’d eventually agree.

      p.s. personally I think hrt should be maximally cheap and sold over the counter.

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      I know a straight cis femboy who wants to take HRT - I dont fully understand it, but I respect its his right to do what he wants with his body and identify however he pleases.

      Some people just want more customization options I guess

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    Had this friend who swears he was straight. But. He loved dicks, coz they’re “so aethetical” and despised vajayjays coz “they’re disgusting axe-wounds”. When i dared saying he sounds more gay than straight he was furiously pissed and in the end quit the friendship coz I’m just “straightphobe” and seeing gays everywhere.

    I didn’t really know - being a logical being - how to react to all of this. He was dead serious. Even offered to suck me off and got pissed that i declined due to not being bi nor gay.

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      He was dead serious. Even offered to suck me off and got pissed that i declined due to not being bi nor gay.

      Nah, lol. I can’t believe this

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        I still can’t either… Then again, people really believe some fantasy-stories about some omnipotent god and his son’s adventures on earth. So why shouldn’t one believe one is straight, despite all sign one is not. At least it would make more sense than most cults stories 😁

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      Even offered to suck me off and got pissed that i declined due to not being bi or gay.

      That’s hilarious, I wouldn’t know how to react lmao

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        In hindsight it kinda was funny. Though also supersad, seeing him THAT delusional just because we are the remnants of a generation brought up with hate for gays. I didn’t really cared about his sexual preferences. He was a great dude. Yet he’s gone due to this repression of such a trivial matter.