I’ve heard it explained that “hey” used to be more of an urgent way to get someone’s attention, rather than a casual “hello” like it is now, so it sounded rude to some older folks.

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    only one way to interpret “you’re welcome”

    This is just wrong. Tone matters just as much with “you’re welcome” as it does with “no problem”. Language is fluid like that, and it’s completely arbitrary to elevate one of these expressions over the other when both are in common usage.

    Also, you’re deliberately misrepresenting what “no problem” means, in regards to “that’s the only reason you complied”. Nobody says it that way, and I don’t believe that you think they do.

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      Using semantics to make your point, is lazy and misleading. Of course you could say “you’re welcome” in a tone that could be taken as rude, but that wasn’t the point. The point was showing the difference between the two phrases.

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          I don’t think you understand what that word means. If you’re being waited on and paying good money for it, you would prefer to hear your server say “you’re welcome” rather “no problem”.

          If you’re socially inept, it’s not surprising if polite traditions are lost on you.

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            I don’t give two flying fucks what the waiter says, bring me my food and don’t be an ass with your demeanor.

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                  Part of the conversation talking about how older people get upset at how a server answers them? Yes.

                  If you say you don’t care, then there’s no reason for you to comment about that aspect of the conversation.

                  I’m trying to explain to the socially inept why using certain terminology in a hospitality setting can be frowned upon. Unsurprisingly, they can’t grasp this very simple concept.

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                    Maybe the older people just shouldn’t get upset? Why do we need to pander to them? Cant they just allow us to respond to thank you the way we want to?

                    Goes both ways. And yes I have reason, this is a child Conversation of one of my comments.

                    Society should stop pandering to them, eventually there would be no places they could go without accepting they’ve lost. Plenty of places do fine already being hospital under other means.