When people decided to make the perfect the enemy of the good. I don’t know what concise term it is that is happening here, but it is the same as Time Out. So before Time Out was a thing, parents would assault their children simply because they, the parents, felt upset or frustrated with their children existing as new people who were still learning. In order to keep children from being hit so hard they’d welt or bruise, the public health authorities convinced parents that Time Out was by far more effective – go sit in a corner by yourself! The only thing it was more effective at was getting that child out of the walloping range of an emotional parent; the goal. But if the public health authorities told those parents that, they’d keep hitting their kids. Time Out is not actually an effective teaching tool and for parents who aren’t inclined to beat children, it’s actually a poor choice to make vs taking the teachable moment to teach. So it isn’t really A Good Thing as it has been branded. But if it saves even one child from harm, let’s spread the good word.
Same with this one. Some children were overlaid by inebriated parents. Saying that children in the bed is A Bad Thing will save the lives of children whose parents are prone to inebriation and would otherwise have bedshared with them. And since it saves even one child from harm, we spread the good word. However, much like the parent who isn’t going to beat their child above, there is also the parent who avoids intoxicants.
Yet people like hard and fast rules and like sanctimony. So they’ll stan No Kids in the Bed under all circumstances without noting the nuance.
Personally, we follow the Safe Sleep 7, though baby spends more sleeping hours in his own bassinet than in our bed. Yet sometimes, only proximity to parents will do at night and so we make it as safe as possible so we can all get some much needed sleep.
That makes a lot of sense. I noticed with my partner and me we wouldn’t ever come to lay on our kids during sleep. Subconscious simply avoid them it seems. Which makes absolute sense when you think about it from an evolutionary perspective.
I never slept lighter than when I had babies. I slept through an earthquake before having children but after I would jolt awake at the sound of their pajamas rustling on the sheets.
There are studies which show that usually only one parent will develop this extremely light sleep to care for the baby. The other will be able to sleep through. Often it is the woman who will wake up easier. But it isn’t tied to gender.
Interestingly when homosexual couple adopt infants one of them will develop the same light sleep while the other won’t. Usually the parent who spends more time with the child will be the one to wake up iirc. Thought that was super interesting.
When people decided to make the perfect the enemy of the good. I don’t know what concise term it is that is happening here, but it is the same as Time Out. So before Time Out was a thing, parents would assault their children simply because they, the parents, felt upset or frustrated with their children existing as new people who were still learning. In order to keep children from being hit so hard they’d welt or bruise, the public health authorities convinced parents that Time Out was by far more effective – go sit in a corner by yourself! The only thing it was more effective at was getting that child out of the walloping range of an emotional parent; the goal. But if the public health authorities told those parents that, they’d keep hitting their kids. Time Out is not actually an effective teaching tool and for parents who aren’t inclined to beat children, it’s actually a poor choice to make vs taking the teachable moment to teach. So it isn’t really A Good Thing as it has been branded. But if it saves even one child from harm, let’s spread the good word.
Same with this one. Some children were overlaid by inebriated parents. Saying that children in the bed is A Bad Thing will save the lives of children whose parents are prone to inebriation and would otherwise have bedshared with them. And since it saves even one child from harm, we spread the good word. However, much like the parent who isn’t going to beat their child above, there is also the parent who avoids intoxicants.
Yet people like hard and fast rules and like sanctimony. So they’ll stan No Kids in the Bed under all circumstances without noting the nuance.
Personally, we follow the Safe Sleep 7, though baby spends more sleeping hours in his own bassinet than in our bed. Yet sometimes, only proximity to parents will do at night and so we make it as safe as possible so we can all get some much needed sleep.
That makes a lot of sense. I noticed with my partner and me we wouldn’t ever come to lay on our kids during sleep. Subconscious simply avoid them it seems. Which makes absolute sense when you think about it from an evolutionary perspective.
But of course being inebriated might change that.
I never slept lighter than when I had babies. I slept through an earthquake before having children but after I would jolt awake at the sound of their pajamas rustling on the sheets.
There are studies which show that usually only one parent will develop this extremely light sleep to care for the baby. The other will be able to sleep through. Often it is the woman who will wake up easier. But it isn’t tied to gender.
Interestingly when homosexual couple adopt infants one of them will develop the same light sleep while the other won’t. Usually the parent who spends more time with the child will be the one to wake up iirc. Thought that was super interesting.