• queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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    11 months ago

    So, like, surely you realize people need homes and jobs and stuff right? You can’t just hop on the next bus to freedom town and hope for the best, that’s a child’s view of emigration.

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      11 months ago

      I did. I even moved 6000 miles away overnight. I shoulda done it twenty years sooner.

      There is nothing keeping anyone anywhere. You arent as important to others as you think you are, and if you are they’ll be glad you did something positive for once.

      And no, I am not wealthy. I didnt have shit either. I just know not to stay and die a miserable death in a fascist shithole.

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          11 months ago

          Seems like debt would be the reason to leave. Start over somewhere else and that debt disappears after 7 years

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            11 months ago

            What do you do in the meantime? Have your wages garnished? Get denied housing because your credit score is too low?

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              11 months ago

              Work for cash, try to be self-employed, find local support groups and make as many friends as you can. If you’re good and honest (and not naive) you’ll do fine…word of mouth and personal referrals beat credit scores.

              I never said it was easy; neither is staying where you are and dying. It was fucking terrifying when I made that jump, and for three years minimum it was a steuggle; but I made friends quickly and was straight up with them about what my situation was and why I was here. I asked for housing referrals and cheaper rent. I made damn sure that I kept the place nice and fixed anything that needed fixing myself. Landlords want a trouble-free tenant with good vibes; if they don’t then they’re a bad landlord.

              Now, I am not a woman so I am not qualified to advise their experience; however, there are two pieces of advice I adamantly insist on: 1- DO NOT GIVE ANY BOYFRIEND A KEY until you have been together long enough to know that he isnt some fucking asshole who punches holes in walls and dashborads and fucks things up for you. If he asks for money the answer is ALWAYS no. Dump him immediately; no dick is worth it.

              2- NEVER EVER EVER trade work for rent. Ever. You work, you bill for it. The landlord gives you a check; when rent is due you give him a check. There is no situation in which a work trade does not result in devaluing the work or overvaluing the rent. WORK and RENT are always TWO UNRELATED TRANSACTIONS.

              I hope your situation improves and you can get away from your problems.

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      11 months ago

      I’ve literally done that in the past, when things weren’t so good. I guess I hadn’t been told adults just stay, whine and rot.

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        adults just stay, whine and rot.

        Actually, we usually kill ourselves. Why do you think America has skyrocketing suicide and overdose rates?

        If you literally bought a bus ticket with nothing else to your name and somehow survived, you’re basically just a lottery winner. That’s not a sound financial strategy!

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          If you literally bought a bus ticket with nothing else to your name and somehow survived, you’re basically just a lottery winner.

          Lots of people do this, what’re you talking about? You should honestly try it, it’s freeing.

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            Lots of people end up homeless or in prison or or shacking up with whoever will take them in or doing the kind of work they never wanted in their life or dead. This is a shithole country, throwing away your life to go to Dreamsville is stupid af and, honestly, I don’t even believe you.

            If I wanted that kind of freedom I’d just take out my 9mm retirement plan early, rather than my current plan of waiting until I’m too old to work.

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              See, this is exactly the mindset leaves people trapped. I love how you throw “doing work” in with prison, dead, etc.

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                I was more thinking of being forced to do degrading, humiliating, disgusting, or unsafe work. Or, y’know, illegal under-the-table shit. Whatever it takes to get by, no matter how hard it is or how unpredictable the hours are or how much the employerr screws you over.

                At that point, what was the fuckin point of moving anyway? Out of the frying pan and into the fire 🙄

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                  Sure. I beleive you, it’s not like you might have said what you really thought, nobody openly espousing communism has ever been scared of hard work.