fwiw, the sensitivity folks have for this varies … I myself was very sensitive to otherwise neutral terms like “guys” or “dude” early in transition mostly because I couldn’t distinguish when someone was misgendering me or not … but once I started to pass and my trans status became secret, “guys” no longer bothered me because it was so unlikely to be misgendering.

So it’s good to be sensitive when people give you feedback, but just know it’s not like there is a single rule that will work for everyone.