I don’t understand women who fake it. They’re just reinforcing bad sexual performance in their partners. It’s shooting yourself in the foot.
I don’t understand how someone couldn’t tell that their partner is faking it. Like you can literally see/feel when your partner is having an orgasm. Not to mention you should have already talked with your partner about what they like and what gets them off.
I think that’s a skill issue. If you’ve never experienced a partner having a real orgasm, you’ll believe in fake ones.
every orgasms differently dude.
same way they all have different voices.
But you still recognize a voice in the cacophony of soundscapes.
what?
yeah and when i orgasm i stare into the void of existence too, or something.
Is OP actually faking it though, like i dont instantly become soft when i slip out, im still very turned on for the few seconds im still out. I guess i think OP is talking about a huge overreaction.
because they aren’t honest people and they avoid conflict.
and they are getting other things they want more. and they will stick around until someone else comes along and offers them a better deal, that’s when they cheat.
I had a fiance who I found out had been faking orgasms for over a year or two. Never communicated that she wasn’t enjoying it or how I could improve, even if I asked. Then she cheated on me, but continued the relationship because I was paying all of her bills while she was unemployed. Glad I found out before tying the knot from her best friend.
Now I’m married to a different person. We communicate our likes and dislikes during and before sex after trying things. After 14 years, I can’t imagine better sex with anyone else. Just getting better with time like a fine wine.
And the others age becoming sour and bitter 😁
I remember that saying about women & wine.
Did I date your ex? That’s exactly the story she told me as to why she cheated on her ex, “because he wasn’t making her happy”. Then on a separate occasion she told me she had never done anything wrong in her life, soon after we broke up, because apparently I was too judgemental.
My ex didn’t say I was judgemental. She said I “wasn’t there for her”. Still no idea what the fuck that meant, because I drove 11 hours twice a month to go and see her, paid her bills, video called her every day, and thought I did a pretty good job of showing her love.
She also cheated on me the week before my 21st birthday party and then invited the guy she cheated on me with to my party. I even knew the guy and was semi-friends with them.
In retrospect, I’m glad she showed her hand before marriage, because then I’d have been extra fucked. Dodged a building-sized bullet and am much happier now.
it means you were not what she wanted, but you were what she could get at the time.
she wanted the other guy.
That’s the weird thing…when I went to break up with her, she told me she still wanted to get married and how she had planned to never tell me she cheated, just pretending it never happened.
I’m pretty sure it was just that I was financially stable and supporting her, while her side piece was broke. Which is nuts because I was in uni and didn’t have a lot.
it’s super common man. many people have no morality, they just seek to exploit and use other people for their own gain.
I have been on the flip side. Several women at work hit on me and went out with me, only for me to find out they had a husband/boyfriend they lived with. They wanted me to bang them and have fun with them while their less attractive boyfriend at home paid their bills for them. One of these women actually married the guy, with a big FAT engagement ring on her finger. Poor dude. I met him once at work, he was not a good looking guy, but he bought her nice things and she liked that.
I think cheating is fucking gross, so yeah I never saw them again and basically didn’t talk to them at work anymore. In their mind, I was the asshole, because they just wanted to have fun with me, and I didn’t play along.
your sex is a shitty person who hated you but was happy to use you for what you gave her.
This is the way.
Too many people overlook the value of “communication skills” in a relationship
Exactly.
Some men react badly to not being told they’re the best.
True, some do. Some don’t. Generalizations and such
try telling a woman she’s bad in bed…
WOW, can you imagine there being people with different tastes and personalities?
Don’t tell me… Are all women also different??!
no. everyone knows all men and all women are the same as the last person you dated.
You act like every single man out there would gratefully accept any criticisms. Especially regarding this.
There’s just so much that can go wrong.
If the guy can’t accept criticism without reacting negatively why would someone be intimate with them?
I get it if a guy would rather not get boo-ed during a bit of the horizontal tango, but surely their partner saying “do it like this” is an invitation to oblige
It’s not boolean, either fake it or tell him he sucks. You can do neither.
You said you didn’t understand. I gave you a reason and you insulted me.
Thanks for showing the world how insecure you are.
Yeah I’m looking for the insult and I’m not finding it boss
How did I insult you?
Edit: maybe you read it as “you personally are incapable of doing either”? What I meant was “doing neither is an option”. I apologize if it was ambiguous.
Doing neither is an option is a lot different than saying “You can do neither.”
Where was the insult?? They disagreed with you. I wouldn’t be calling other people insecure if you took that as an insult.
Because some people, including women, will never learn. It’s better to be not alone and sexually unsatisfied than alone and sometimes sexual satisfied.
Those aren’t the only two options. There’s this thing called honest communication.
some people
You are correct, however sometimes things are easier said than done.
What’s that? Never heard of it
Also affairs.
Not every woman gets pleasure or can even climax from vaginal intercourse
But most of us can. More of us can than do.
That would be an interesting area for an empirical quantitative study.
I wouldn’t know for I lack the parts.
Which is OK. But communicate that with your partner.
not every partner wants to communicate.
sometimes communication with your partner… results in violence from your partner.
people generally, don’t like enjoy being the victims of violence.
If you have to choose between bad sex and violence, you’re getting raped.
oh, is that true even if I’m a man?
Probably.
right, but if i was a woman it would totally be true.
almost as if there are double standards when it comes to sex and rape.
Ideally, yes. Real societal norms demand some specific behavior from women that make that difficult. I am not a native speaker so I am having trouble to find the right words. Maybe this is enough :)
I can understand societal norms in certain places silencing women from fully disclosing sexual preferences and limitations. But, in my opinion, if you care about a woman having or faking an orgasm, you should also care about making sure you are both comfortable expressing your preferences and limitations before fucking.
Fully agree.
Proper response
No, but I guess this is sarcasm
At least it wasn’t an orgasm.
Lol shit he got small pp
Real talk, as someone who’s fairly well endowed, I once slept with a lady where it was seriously like throwing a hotdog into the grand canyon. I literally slipped right out. Every other partner it’s been clear that my hardware is a bit larger than their geometry would prefer (and thats honestly been an ongoing challenge in my sex life) but that one girl, I seriously have to wonder what was going on there
They can relax and constrict like any other body part ive had both super loose and super tight experiences with the same woman.
Yeah definitely heard from a friend that said they said really huge vagina. Like legitimately could describe it as a pouch for like cognac or any liquor bottle
That is the common assumption. Maybe she just got a dead vagina, though?
Dead vagina theory
Sounds like something smol pp people would say, but nah it makes sense vagina is sensitive
What does this even mean
I don’t know, I was riffing on dead internet theory and hoped someone else could make it work.
I guess the most direct parallel would be that everyone in the vagina is actually a bot… Oh, that does kinda work.
I knew a woman who’s nerves in her vagina were damaged from a SA, and so she really couldnt feel a whole lot down there. Maybe thats what they mean
I’ve heard some people have fewer nerve endings down there. I’m not a doctor though, so idk.
