• FlashMobOfOne@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    11 hours ago

    My experience has been that healing is hard because it requires acknowledging that there are parts of you that simply do not and will never fit into the expectations society has imposed upon you (regardless of which society you live in), and if you want to be happy, you have to accept that maybe you’re just a little weird, that’s okay, and it may be better to just live in your own little world.

  • untorquer@quokk.auEnglish
    6·
    15 hours ago

    Your inner teenager is angry and wants justice for the lack of your inner child’s safety. Your inner adult is restoring it.

  • LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    1·
    10 hours ago

    I agree. Parts of you can get stuck, in the trauma, experienced at the time. Exactly like that. There’s this brilliant book called “no bad parts” by Richard C. Schwartz, PHD. And it takes you step by step incrementally through your parts stuck in trauma. I’m wording it poorly, it’s brilliant stuff. I was listening to the audio book while gardening, it’s absolutely the worst time to ugly cry, snot and all, when you’re covered in dirt and can’t wipe anything away. It was a good cry though. Letting go.

    • Findus_Falke@feddit.orgEnglish
      2·
      14 hours ago

      Would you like to elabotate how curiosity is involved in your process of healing? I genuilnely can’t imagine.

      • cub Gucci@lemmy.todayEnglish
        21·
        14 hours ago

        That’s the only way out of trauma imo. Not soothing, not whining - a pure curiosity of what’s beyond it. How the world feels, how it functions, how I react to things, how others react to the same stimulus.

        • metallic_z3r0@infosec.pubEnglish
          1·
          10 hours ago

          My pure, insatiable curiosity is one of the few reasons I’ve found to keep living. My current connections are another, but in the past I didn’t have as many good ones. I have a raw, unending need to know everything I can about humanity, the universe, and how we can best fit in it. Similarly I need to stay around long enough to find out who was right: the religion of the shepherd or that of the goatherd (the answer might be neither, but I’d like to see)?