if youāre over 6 feet or so, all sorts of people will ask what your height isā¦ but i have seen weird height minimums on dating appsā¦ usually with āi want to be able to wear heelsā
I donāt get it. Is there a rotating 1kW laser mounted on my head that may decapitate a woman slightly taller then me I didnāt recognize all my life?!
People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that theyāll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure theyād date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things arenāt equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. Thereās no ānot an assholeā filter, for example.
The ādodged a bulletā idiom is well-meaning, but after a while, you feel like a soldier who survived storming the beach at Normandy, what with all of the bullets you dodged.
itās sort of a toxic masculinity thingā¦ they want to be shorter than the person theyāre withā¦. male roles of protection, reaching high things and carrying heavy things they canāt carryā¦.
my 5ā10ā ex dated a shorter man once, she said his obsession with her height was one thing that ruined itā¦.
he hated tall guys, wanted to sleep on top of her like a human bedā¦ just weird dumb stuffā¦.
she also mentioned she liked that she could wear heels with me and not be taller than meā¦ and we never got dressed up like thatā¦ she just needed the option or something.
but hey, iāve never even met a woman as tall as meā¦ itās not such a big deal.
Yeah, thatās pretty weird. Like even if I weirdly wanted to sleep, like actually sleep, on top of another person, Iām fairly spectating I couldnāt. It would just be uncomfortable.
I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys Iāve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didnāt want to be with a guy so much taller than me because Iām not used to feeling short and it isnāt a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks Iām irritated by tall menās obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
such a weird worldā¦ i say, like what you likeā¦ donāt obsess or fetishize itā¦
iāve dated some extra short women, they did marvel at my height but it was more of a noveltyā¦ standing on things to kiss kinda thingā¦. it is weird being someoneās ātypeā because of a couple key physical attributes.
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but almost all women seem really short to meā¦ i usually donāt really notice at first.
I get it but maybethey should try to meet the person first It could be very little to no difference or the person could be so awesome that it doesnāt mater.
i just think itās not that important if a girl is taller than a guy (or anyone) theyāre datingā¦.
itās a weird world i donāt know why people make such a big deal about these thingsā¦.
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i guess i have been told by women that they feel surprisingly safe walking next to me on the street, and that itās a big reliefā¦.
maybe it all comes down to instinctual security?
if youāre over 6 feet or so, all sorts of people will ask what your height isā¦ but i have seen weird height minimums on dating appsā¦ usually with āi want to be able to wear heelsā
I donāt get it. Is there a rotating 1kW laser mounted on my head that may decapitate a woman slightly taller then me I didnāt recognize all my life?!
People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that theyāll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure theyād date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things arenāt equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. Thereās no ānot an assholeā filter, for example.
So what āIf youāre not 6 feet tall, donāt botherā really means is āHit me up anyway, we might click.ā
No, it means āIām a vapid person and youāre dodging a bullet by swiping left on meā.
Seriously, those people are a godsend. Thank you for telling me to stay far away lol Iād never want to be dating someone like that.
The ādodged a bulletā idiom is well-meaning, but after a while, you feel like a soldier who survived storming the beach at Normandy, what with all of the bullets you dodged.
I also put āI have a small dickā and no women want to reply to me.
1kW is too low
itās sort of a toxic masculinity thingā¦ they want to be shorter than the person theyāre withā¦. male roles of protection, reaching high things and carrying heavy things they canāt carryā¦.
my 5ā10ā ex dated a shorter man once, she said his obsession with her height was one thing that ruined itā¦.
he hated tall guys, wanted to sleep on top of her like a human bedā¦ just weird dumb stuffā¦.
she also mentioned she liked that she could wear heels with me and not be taller than meā¦ and we never got dressed up like thatā¦ she just needed the option or something.
but hey, iāve never even met a woman as tall as meā¦ itās not such a big deal.
What.
Did he love the fact that she was taller than him or hate it?
Yeah, thatās pretty weird. Like even if I weirdly wanted to sleep, like actually sleep, on top of another person, Iām fairly spectating I couldnāt. It would just be uncomfortable.
he loved itā¦ i guess she let him take a nap on her once as a joke, but then he wanted to do it all the timeā¦.
I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys Iāve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didnāt want to be with a guy so much taller than me because Iām not used to feeling short and it isnāt a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks Iām irritated by tall menās obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
such a weird worldā¦ i say, like what you likeā¦ donāt obsess or fetishize itā¦
iāve dated some extra short women, they did marvel at my height but it was more of a noveltyā¦ standing on things to kiss kinda thingā¦. it is weird being someoneās ātypeā because of a couple key physical attributes.
ā¦
but almost all women seem really short to meā¦ i usually donāt really notice at first.
yeah It makes no sense.
Thatās fine. I might wear them too.
i would, but i canāt find any dates tall enough for me to wear them
I get it but maybethey should try to meet the person first It could be very little to no difference or the person could be so awesome that it doesnāt mater.
i just think itās not that important if a girl is taller than a guy (or anyone) theyāre datingā¦.
itās a weird world i donāt know why people make such a big deal about these thingsā¦.
ā¦
i guess i have been told by women that they feel surprisingly safe walking next to me on the street, and that itās a big reliefā¦.
maybe it all comes down to instinctual security?
Haha yeah perhaps if you live in a country where thatās rare.
You have to be ~2 meters here to get comments, and even that isnāt really rare. 210 would probably start turning heads a bit.