Any other folks here who are physically transitioning have a constant level of low level of horniness that is unresolveable because there’s no real relief any more due to nothing working in regards to that, not even with others?

  • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    I think I may understand a bit. For me, masturbation was really just a quick dopamine hit as a coping mechanism for ADHD. It was never really satisfying, like I’d have a quick jerk and then go about my day as usual. I haven’t physically transitioned, but I discovered anal toys and they kind of blew my mind. It felt so much more right to me, instead of having a bit of pleasure that was fast to come and fast to go, this was… More intense, more lasting. I still haven’t cum from anal alone, but honestly it’s better than cumming to me. I still cum to finish a session, but it’s the desert after the meal. After a good session, the high lasts for a while, and I just snuggle with stuffed animals on the couch and watch a comfy show. It’s an event, rather than a fleeting moment.

    Feel free to ask anything, I’m an oversharer by nature nowadays, I won’t be embarrassed. I can also help with getting into butt toying if that’s something anyone reading wants help with. Getting started on my own was a bit rough so I’m always looking to save someone the time and effort of figuring stuff out.

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      Ah, as far as we know we don’t have ADHD, ‘just’ autism. Yeah, that seems like a likely outcome and way of coping with lower dopamine levels and we are glad it works for you.

      We don’t think toys etc alone would work, because at least one of us, we suspect all of us are demisexual and so having satisfying stuff is more about emotional connection and long slow sessions, it’s what we’ve always wanted, we think and most we’ve come across are not like that as far as we know. We also have no idea how to do that with ourselves and as we’ve grown into ourselves and been more honest we’ve learned that most images, videos and stories out there don’t really work for us, most it does is make us want to do things with others, since we don’t really know how to with ourselves and maybe based on our sexuality it isn’t possible, or at least not easy.

      We appreciate that, if we think of anything we’ll let you know.