I think it’s important to recognize that it’s not just unwell and delusional men. Many men discover porn as boys and it warps their view of “real” sex, not because they were unwell, but because they were impressionable and no one taught them anything different.
Also, I have heard countless stories from women about dudes who attempt things they saw in porn, often without consent. It’s unfortunately not an uncommon thing, and it’s not fair to say that all of these men are delusional–they’re confused, they lack crucial knowledge about love and intimacy, and they have mysoginistic ideas about women, sure. It’s highly problematic, but we can’t simply write them off as unwell. We need to hold them to a higher standard than that if we hope for them to take responsibility and do the work it takes to be better.
Porn absolutely sets unrealistic sexual expectations.
Does female porn mess up women?
It is notable that porn usage among women is substantially different for many of the reasons that are laid out in the article. Not only is there a significant difference in proportion of women who consume porn (60% vs 92% of men) they are also significantly less likely to consume porn in video format, usually opting for written content. Undoubtedly this has to do with difficulties empathizing with the very male-gazey standards that the video industry currently operates under.
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I think it’s important to recognize that it’s not just unwell and delusional men. Many men discover porn as boys and it warps their view of “real” sex, not because they were unwell, but because they were impressionable and no one taught them anything different.
Also, I have heard countless stories from women about dudes who attempt things they saw in porn, often without consent. It’s unfortunately not an uncommon thing, and it’s not fair to say that all of these men are delusional–they’re confused, they lack crucial knowledge about love and intimacy, and they have mysoginistic ideas about women, sure. It’s highly problematic, but we can’t simply write them off as unwell. We need to hold them to a higher standard than that if we hope for them to take responsibility and do the work it takes to be better.
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Porn absolutely sets unrealistic sexual expectations.
It is notable that porn usage among women is substantially different for many of the reasons that are laid out in the article. Not only is there a significant difference in proportion of women who consume porn (60% vs 92% of men) they are also significantly less likely to consume porn in video format, usually opting for written content. Undoubtedly this has to do with difficulties empathizing with the very male-gazey standards that the video industry currently operates under.
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