wait until you see what 40 feels like…
Anyone who yearns for their life as child has developmental issues. I’m not trying to say that as a sick burn, I think it’s honestly sad and source of suffering for some people.
I really relate to this comic. I didn’t like being a child that much, and I feel alienated a lot on the internet by people constantly wishing they could go back to having no responsibilities. I really, really like being able to control my own destiny and decide what I wanna do, even though it comes with increased pressures and responsibilities.
Hell yes to this. Childhood, Highschool, and even in to college were some of the worst years of my life. I never want to repeat them. Sometimes I fantasize about what it would have been like to be “normal”, but I love who I am now and l do not want to give that up or go back.
You 🤝 me
I literally found my purpose in my 30s. Nothing was meaningful nor worthwhile in my 20s
There’s still pleanty of fun and meaningful things I can do in my 30s
Midtwenties and it feels over in a lot of ways. The majority of friends I’ve made growing up or in college are gone. People have spread out and started focusing on their own lives. Even people that I only ever knew online have began moving on.
In a lot of ways this has been fine because I’ve just turned inward and started focusing on myself too, started being selfish about what I want. I miss seeing a lot of my friends in person rather than random texts or seeing their stories on snap.
It’s very confusing at times because I enjoy being able to do whatever I want when I want without consulting anyone but I also miss having people to do things with.
Something I really cherish is a scheduled phone call with two of my college buddies, themed on a movie or TV show we agree to watch that week.
One of us just abruptly made a group chat and asked if we’d be down, and we’ve been doing it for years now, I highly reccomend!
Let people go. You cant hold onto them forever, even in the best of cases. I have people who i consider my best friends that I haven’t seen in years. Maybe never again.
The river of life has many branches, we just floated down different ones. Dont take it personally.
I’ve let go of them but the issue is finding new people to replace them.
Accept lamer people like work colleagues and such.
Find a socially based hobby! I’ve been going to a weekly language exchange for a couple of years and it’s just as much language practice as it is social hangout.
This^ And that’s the beauty of the 30s because I think that’s about when you likely start to realize and understand this. It’s freeing.
It’s hard because there seems to be no place to hang out and meet people either. Not for a date, just to chill and make friends.
One of the last true 3rd places I’ve found is dog parks. If you go consistently at the same time each day you’ll be seeing a lot of the same people, who generally are down to chat. You can talk about their dog to break the ice, and I doubt people would even mind if you don’t have a dog.
Join a club! Having a group of people you see every week that are happy you’re there is what got me out of my worst depression. I’m in a run club and organize a mountain bike club, but if that’s not your speed there’s lots of others. An improv club/class will probably give you incredible social skills. But there’s roleplay clubs, book clubs, bowling/league night, kickball, knitting, and probably a bunch I can’t think of.
seconding what the other person said. just go hang out in public places, preferably ones where you can do something and have a natural reason to approach people.
it isn’t going to happen immediately. but eventually you will strike up conversations with people, and some of those will be good conversations, and some of those will be with people you like, and some of those will be with people who like you. and then you gotta actually get their contact info or plan to meet up again, maybe doing other things.
ITT: a bunch of “miserable” people who are way too comfortable and happy with their lives to fight back against what they claim is making them so (performatively) “miserable”
Same. Holy shit was age 0-29 grim as fuck.
I remember my 30th birthday well, I suddenly grew a six pack and backflipped onto a motorbike mounted onto a jetski and then moonwalked the 100m race faster than Jamiroquai on stilts
Age 10-20 was miserable. Hormones. Parents. Bullies in high school. Difficult to find work. College struggle and debt.
Age 20-30 was better but still shit. Welfare. Homelessness. Police harassment. Juggling three jobs to pay rent.
Age 30-40 was so much better. Life was in order. Wife and I both leveled up our education and got a career. Traveled for the first time (Hawaii then Japan). Had kids.
Age 40 - life is getting better. Feels like the best days still happening.
Age 10-20 wasn’t amazing, but still okay. My birth oerson
I’m 35. Still waiting for life to stop being miserable. No hope in sight.
i had so much hope in my 20s. now in my 30s it’s gone
Yeah dunno what these guys are talking about. I think I got depression, not that one like people imagine, but real constant struggle to do anything.
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Glad to know she’s still active. I miss her in webtoons
My 30s might have been more awesome if I hadn’t reset my life/career every 4-5 years. I’d have been super bored and miserable in a different way if I’d stayed the course, but I’d have more money to waste on synthesizers in my big empty house, I guess.
I’m 40. I feel like my life is over. My career was destroyed by Trump and all this AI bullshit. I fear becoming an old man and not being able to afford basic life essentials.
same boat
I just got a job as a mailman. Time to grab whatever career is left.
my friend did this too. i used to do door to door canvassing, it’s def hard on the body
I’m very scared about that.
My career is ok but my body is falling apart.
Well, that really varies from person to person, doesn’t it?
My 30s were worse than my 20s.
Having to work full-time sucks.
It might be different for people who love their job or for those who are rich enough not to worry about work at all, but for me, the time when I had to work full-time was more or less the end of the ‘good times’.
Wait! You didn’t have to work full time in your 20’s? I’ve been working full time since I was 21
I think I was around 26 when I started working.
Lucky
Yeah that’s crazy to me. I started working full time at 18. 26?! How?!
I was also working at 18, just not full time since I was going to college
My bet on why people don’t identify with that anymore is shifting social expectations and economy leading to having kids way later than in their day.
Which… I love my kids, wouldn’t trade 'em for anything. But they can definitely make you feel old both by just watching them age and the extra responsibility reducing the freedom/spontaneity you might have had more of earlier in your youth. If you had kids in your early 20s, this starts earlier. If you don’t start until your 30s, you’re probably already starting to settle a bit anyway just from being more established in a career and such.
I’d also be curious to know rates of messing around with harder drugs and drinking and such. My sense is those have gone down, and that kind of thing can be hard on your body.
Just spit balling here.
I like to think I did my 20s right, if that means anything. Partied often, built my career, worked on my established, longstanding friendships. I lived a bit wildly, but I also think that I gradually wound those things down. I have been in my career since I was 20, but in my mid-20s, my friends would show up to my jobs at night, I’d change out of my suit in the bathroom, and we’d all take a train into Manhattan, on a Tuesday or Wednesday. It’s something I couldn’t even consider. Our nights started at 1030, 11. Now, that’s essentially when they end for me.
I’m now in as late as your 30s get, have kids, and that lifestyle is a very distant past, which I’m happy about. I have friends who still like to live it, and that’s cool. I’ll hang out with them, but I also have no problem tapping out early, and they also don’t care that I do. We’re all past the point of “uno mas,” which is funny because it’s been the name of our group chat for the past 15 years, and it’s okay. I had fun, it’s no longer what I want to do for fun, and that’s cool with me and everyone.
It’s nice to all grow to a point where peer pressure has seemed to finally met it’s demise, although I do always say peer pressure is a great motivator of youth, and I wouldn’t change my youth for a second, because my present is great.
20s-30s: Time & energy, but no money.
60s-70s: Money & time, but no energy.40-50s: Not enough of any of them.
im in my 30s i dont feel like i have any time, energy, or money
I’ve found eating a rich person helps a lot.
Give up on money and you can use your time to sleep … which can make energy.
Worst case scenario you get some serious sleepies in
need money for place to sleep. although considering getting an rv
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