Thereā€™s definitely some additional nuance (like a pronouns in bio/username situation) but this should cover the broad needs of anyone who is approaching this with good faith.

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    If were going from whats Ā«grammatically well establishedĀ» i would argue he/she is a lot more established

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      Tbh just saying they is easier, took a few weeks/months to train myself to do it and now Iā€™m just cringing whenever I hear something thatā€™s like ā€œhe or she could be doing this thingā€ when ā€œtheyā€ is just more efficient anyway. Theyā€™re just as established. I think ā€œtheyā€ is an older term but Iā€™d have to look into the etymology on that.

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        So Iā€™m not sure how reliable it is given the age of the data but it looks like thereā€™s some indication that ā€œtheyā€ fell in use up to the late 1900s but before ~1860 it was actually more common than now. Iā€™m now curious if thereā€™s any more info on this.

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      He/She is fine for when you know the gender of someone. When you donā€™t they is really well established - it was used by Chaucer. So they if you donā€™t know because they might go by something else, they for someone with a name like Leslie who could be a he or a she outside of any discussion about trans identities.