Speaking as a boring cishet guy, I know it would have taken some major, science fiction-level brainwashing to get me to stop liking the girls I went to high school with, and/or start being interested in the boys. āSocietal pressureā would not have been nearly enough.
Itās much more humane, and kind, to simply accept and support people.
I use to think I was cis and het too. Up until my late 20ās. Turns out I was wrong on both. Still donāt think we should start assuming people who say they are cishet are just delusional though.
I didnāt figure out I was nonbinary and asexual until my mid twenties. I had an entire gender crisis in high school too. But at the time I didnāt know either were things you could be so Iād just concluded that I was cis, but that I was deeply uncomfortable with the expectations society puts on boys/men.
When I was in high school, I was confused how other autistic people could be trans because I couldnāt understand how theyād have a gender without buying into the socially constructed bit. So me considering myself technically cis-by-default was primarily because of not knowing agender was an option.
In terms of sexuality, I preferred that some people thought I was gay and I had even considered I might be some sort of ace-spec, but didnāt realize horny ace was an option and probably mistook some envy and non-sexual attraction as sexual attraction.
Speaking as a boring cishet guy, I know it would have taken some major, science fiction-level brainwashing to get me to stop liking the girls I went to high school with, and/or start being interested in the boys. āSocietal pressureā would not have been nearly enough.
Itās much more humane, and kind, to simply accept and support people.
I use to think I was cis and het too. Up until my late 20ās. Turns out I was wrong on both. Still donāt think we should start assuming people who say they are cishet are just delusional though.
I didnāt figure out I was nonbinary and asexual until my mid twenties. I had an entire gender crisis in high school too. But at the time I didnāt know either were things you could be so Iād just concluded that I was cis, but that I was deeply uncomfortable with the expectations society puts on boys/men.
Sexuality was an even wilder journey. Not only did I initially think I was heterosexual but I was outright homophobic. Turned out to be that I was mistaking being uncomfortable at overt sexual advances as dislike of gay people. I didnāt have the same problem with women because āof course I like girls, I just havenāt found The Oneā¢Ā©Ā® yetā lol. Then when I finally thought about it more I realized that I didnāt really feel any differently about men and women so I must be bi. Finally I eventually realized āYeah dumbass, 0 = 0. Good job.ā
When I was in high school, I was confused how other autistic people could be trans because I couldnāt understand how theyād have a gender without buying into the socially constructed bit. So me considering myself technically cis-by-default was primarily because of not knowing agender was an option.
In terms of sexuality, I preferred that some people thought I was gay and I had even considered I might be some sort of ace-spec, but didnāt realize horny ace was an option and probably mistook some envy and non-sexual attraction as sexual attraction.